Reflect with Purpose
Course correction shapes future outcomes.
Reflection is about course correction, course correction has to do with both thinking about the actions that produced good outcomes and the actions that produced negative outcomes. Consistently reflecting on your behavior is critically important to the sustained growth of relationships.
Separate yourself from the emotions.
Purposeful reflection allows you to exist outside of the moments that produced good or bad outcomes. This is important because it allows you to separate yourself from the emotions you were experiencing in those moments, whether they be positive or negative emotions.
Take, for example, when you experience laughter with your partner, or with someone that you care about, when you reflect on what made you laugh, the greatest thing that you can take from that reflection is how to replicate those moments in the future. If doing a silly dance in the kitchen made your partner laugh, reflecting on that moment helps you to mentally store that behavior for future reference.
Repeat actions that produce good outcomes, replace actions that produce bad outcomes.
The same principle is at work for negative emotions. If you had a particularly frustrating meeting at work, when you take time to reflect on it later, you‘re able to separate yourself from the emotions that you felt during the meeting and analyze the actual factors that made you feel frustrated.
You can ask yourself was it something that someone said? was I feeling tired? was I under-prepared and caught off guard by pushback? When you ask yourself questions like these, you come to a place where you can course correct for a future meeting. Maybe you come to the next meeting more prepared, maybe you speak with the person who said something that was frustrating to you one on one. Whatever course of action you take, it starts with purposeful unemotional reflection.
Reflection is good for your brain.
Reflecting on your day is psychologically beneficial in that, if you are consistently reflecting on moments in your life, you are exercising and building the muscles in your brain that have to do with memory. Conscious reflection is like working out for your brain. Like any other form of exercise, you improve your ability to remember things by consistently taking time throughout the day to actively remember.
Conscious reflection is like working out for your brain.
The UNJRNL system prioritizes focused reflection by having a section where you can reflect in a very open-ended way on the things that are on your mind. As you build the habit of reflection using the UNJRNL, you’ll tend to get into a groove and reflect on a similar aspect of your life on a day-to-day basis.
You’ll find that there are a few different aspects of your life that you’d like to prioritize in reflection. One may be work one may be relationships one may be personal development. These categories of reflection become a way for you to create personal sign posts in your life that you can look back on to help you look forward.