8 Mindful Habits of Happy People

Daimond Simon
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6 min readMar 19, 2024
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In life, there’s a big difference between feeling happy for a moment and being content over the long haul. The latter isn’t about always feeling super excited; it’s about having habits that help us find joy, even in the simple things. As someone who’s really into mindfulness and Buddhism, I’ve noticed that folks who are consistently happy tend to have certain habits in common. These habits aren’t about ignoring bad feelings or pretending everything’s always perfect.

They’re about being present, finding peace inside ourselves, and going through life with an open heart. In this article, I’ll talk about eight habits like that, which can help you find happiness that sticks around. And remember, it’s not about changing everything all at once. It’s about making small choices and changes over time. Let’s get into it.

1) Living in the Moment

In today’s crazy world, it’s easy to get lost in all the stuff going on around us. We might find ourselves thinking a lot about the past or worrying about what’s coming up next. But people who always seem happy get the power of living in the moment. This is a big part of mindfulness and Buddhism.

When we’re focused on the here and now, we stop fighting against whatever’s happening. Instead, we accept things as they are, without piling on extra worry or stress. Think about it. When you’re totally into whatever you’re doing — whether it’s reading, cooking, or just enjoying the fresh air — you’re not stuck on past mistakes or future problems. You’re just enjoying the moment.

2) Saying Thanks Every Day

Gratitude is a big deal when it comes to feeling happy. It’s something I’ve been doing for a long time, and it’s made a huge difference in my life. People who always seem happy get that, even when things are tough, there’s always something to be thankful for. It’s about shifting our focus away from what’s wrong and toward what’s good.

Gratitude is like going back to basics in our lives, finding comfort in what’s already good and right. You don’t need to do anything huge to feel grateful. It could be as simple as enjoying a cup of coffee in the morning or having a chat with a friend. The key is to keep doing it regularly.

3) Being Okay with Change

Let’s be real — life is full of surprises and shifts. Nothing stays the same forever. This can be hard to accept, but folks who always seem happy understand and accept it. This idea comes from Buddhism. Buddha taught that everything in life is always changing — our experiences, feelings, and even ourselves.

It’s tough to accept, but it’s true: we’ll experience losses, things will change, and nothing stays the same forever. We can’t control these changes, but we can control how we react to them. Accepting that things are always changing helps us understand that every moment is special. It lets us enjoy the good times knowing they won’t last forever and get through the tough times knowing they’ll pass.

4) Mindful Communication

Communication happens every day, but do we really pay attention to how we talk to others? Mindful communication is a habit that happy people often have.

Talking isn’t the only part of communication; listening is just as important. And honestly, listening can be harder than talking. It’s easy to let our minds wander, think about what we’ll say next, or get distracted by other thoughts and feelings.

Mindful communication means being fully present in a conversation, listening with an open mind, and responding with care and understanding. It’s not about trying to solve others’ problems or giving advice they didn’t ask for; it’s about creating a space for connection and empathy.

This way of communicating isn’t just good for our relationships; it’s good for our own well-being too. It builds empathy, reduces conflicts, and helps us feel more connected — all of which contribute to happiness.

Every time you talk to someone, try to be present. Listen deeply, respond with thoughtfulness, and see how it changes your interaction.

5) Cultivating a Non-Judgmental Attitude

One of the most powerful habits I’ve learned is having a non-judgmental attitude. It’s a big part of my book, Hidden Secrets of Buddhism: How To Live With Maximum Impact and Minimum Ego.

Our minds tend to label and judge everything we come across. We decide if things are good or bad, right or wrong, useful or useless. But this habit often brings us distress and unhappiness.

Happy people have learned to watch their thoughts and experiences without judgment. They know that judgments often say more about us than what we judge.

Being non-judgmental lets us see things as they are, not clouded by our biases. It makes room for understanding, compassion, and acceptance — for ourselves and others.

It’s not about ignoring our thoughts or feelings; it’s about noticing them without judgment and letting them go. This habit can bring greater happiness and peace in life.

6) Practicing Self-Compassion

Let’s be real: we can be really hard on ourselves. We judge ourselves harshly, dwell on our mistakes, and sometimes forget to take care of ourselves. But happy people understand the importance of being kind to themselves.

Self-compassion is a big deal in Buddhism and mindfulness. It’s about seeing our own suffering, being kind to ourselves, and knowing that everyone messes up sometimes — it’s part of being human.

Practicing self-compassion means noticing our faults without judging ourselves and treating ourselves kindly, just like we would a friend in the same situation.

This helps us build a better relationship with ourselves and boosts our emotional well-being. It makes it easier to bounce back from failures and reduces stress and anxiety.

Remember, it’s okay to make mistakes. Be kind to yourself; you deserve it.

7) Regular Mindfulness Meditation

Life can be hectic and stressful, no doubt about it. But happy people have a secret weapon: mindfulness meditation.

Mindfulness meditation isn’t about escaping reality or being happy all the time. It’s about training our minds to stay focused and aware. It’s about watching our thoughts without judgment and being okay with them.

Regular meditation can lower stress, improve focus, and bring inner peace. It helps us handle life’s ups and downs and brings calm to our lives.

It doesn’t have to take a lot of time either. Even a few minutes each day can make a big difference. Find a quiet spot, close your eyes, focus on your breath, and just be.

8) Unplugging to Connect

In our super-connected world, it might seem strange, but sometimes to be happy, you need to unplug.

Happy people know that being always connected can be overwhelming and keep us from being present in our lives.

Mindfulness isn’t just about being aware of our thoughts and feelings; it’s also about being fully present in our experiences. And that’s tough when we’re always distracted by notifications and social media.

Take some time every day to unplug. Use that time to meditate, connect with loved ones, or enjoy nature. You might be surprised at how refreshing it feels.

Conclusion

Happiness isn’t just a feeling; it’s something we can cultivate through mindful habits. These habits don’t change our circumstances, but they change how we see and deal with them.

Remember, change takes time and practice. Start with one habit and add others as you feel ready.

If you want to dive deeper into mindfulness and Buddhism, check out my book, Hidden Secrets of Buddhism: How To Live With Maximum Impact and Minimum Ego. It’s a practical guide to these principles and offers steps to bring them into your daily life.

Happiness is a journey, not a destination. Enjoy the ride with these mindful habits. Happy travels!

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