Sick at heart “Sadness”?
Dear who-so-ever,
“My life has come to pause, In silence, my days pass. My heart has turned too numb, I’m just waiting for an end to come.”
Oh goodness, this is meant to depict much sorrow or sadness. But in today’s life, it has become cliche. Everybody literally every single person out here conveys their sadness in every possible way and sticks to it exactly the way they shouldn’t. Sadness is one of the four main human emotions — the others being happiness, anger, and one more. Probably my next post might deal with that one more.
Sadness is valid and useful, it alerts us how we need to treat ourselves, and also how we want to be treated by others. It is a normal reaction to a loss, disappointment, problems, or other difficult situations. Feeling sad from time to time is just another part of being human. It is similar to the cloth cover over the man in the picture. What you see through it will always be adding to your sadness. Instead, look past the cover, take it out off of your vision and you’ll not go back. Yes, this might seem easy to say but it isn’t impossible to do. The feeling of sadness is due to increased ’chitchat’ between two areas of our brain. A group of researchers listened to the electrical conversations in the brain — the signals that brain regions send to one another. When a person is feeling down, they found, the communication increased between brain cells in two specific regions of the brain involved in memory and emotion.
Proving the fact that we are worrying about things that had happened before. The study found that in 13 of the 21 patients, a bad mood was associated with an increase in communication between the amygdala (a region involved in processing emotions) and the hippocampus (a region involved in memory). Except for it’s unclear whether this increased brain communication is a cause or an effect of a bad mood. However, the findings allowed them to home in on the part of the brain where the action is. Once you have identified sadness, then respond appropriately to this emotion in yourself and others. First, allow yourself to be sad. You don’t have to be “up” or “positive” all the time. If you feel sad, explore your feelings and find out what you need. You may need to talk to a friend, have time to yourself, or work through your feelings and accept them. After all, what you need is some alone time.
“Alone time is the only time you can talk to yourself. Because you and your subconscious memory know you better than anyone else.”
It allows us to recognize and value the contrast between feeling happy and sad. We need these contrasts in order to recognize our own vulnerabilities and those of others and to be able to appreciate our gains and losses. The ability to recognize and respond to your own and others’ emotions will stand you in good stead. In these cases, the feeling of sadness goes away quickly and you can go about your daily life. Other ways to talk about sadness might be ‘feeling low,’ ‘feeling down,’ or ‘feeling blue.’ A person may say they are feeling depressed, but if it goes away on its own and doesn’t impact life in a big way, it probably isn’t the illness of depression. We over-dramatize the idea of being sad and feel more empathized when we entitle it to depression. Except, the real depression has never found any definition to fit its experience. If you do not observe any difference between being sad and depressed, then I recommend you to read the book “Darkness Visible: A Memoir of Madness” — William Styron. Especially people who have been through the phase are still struggling to find words that can explain their pain and you know what. Depressive people experience hopelessness for no reason and have thoughts of fear and suicide. But today it is easily thinkable by completely normal people with just a bit of sadness or disappointment looking at it as a license to kill themselves without even having the intention of suicide and not knowing how the thought itself is killing the depressives. Ridiculous! Okay, Let’s dig deeper about this in another post.
Now sadness is manageable. People who have good emotional health are aware of their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. They have learned healthy ways to cope with the stress and problems that are a normal part of life. Obviously, when it comes to expressing sadness, we tend to cry. Crying is communicated for sadness. It is agreeable that crying helps people ease the pain or pressure that they are put into. It is proven to release endorphins which can calm you down and help you rest. Sleeping can also do soothing but it brings down the functional level of your brain to a lower beta range that helps in calming down. They also help out from being constantly overwhelmed from the memory that is associated with the sadness. The other workaround is Meditation. It is the all-in-one Guru for gaining control over our emotions.
The cry is much pushed towards the feminine. It is accredited to women and low emotional strength. Why? It’s no surprise that women cry oftentimes than men. The reason is the endorphins, opioids and the majority is by Prolactin — which is found in only women. While Testosterone may prohibit the activity. Yet it doesn’t mean crying is feminine and men who cry do not lack testosterone. It is also reported that Women are more prone to depression than men. This might be adversely affected due to the menstrual cycle and pregnancy which are inevitable. The balance of hormones on those days can majorly affect the mood and is experienced over the years which may be a mental burden on a whole. Anything adding to this will definitely be oppression leading to easier encounters with clinical depression. Exhaustion is for both men and women. Likewise, is the emotional state of sadness. Sadness can occur to anybody not minding the sex. Proactively working on the feeling and being able to discover the emotional state is a way to gain control over what can affect you to make you better, not weak!
“An empty tank can take you nowhere. Take time to refuel.”
