Self-fulfilling Prophecy
How unconscious prophecies lead us into the “emptiness”. Maybe you can identify with the following example: You accept a new task and quickly realize that it is growing over your head. You can’t do anything about it, the voices in your head are getting louder and louder — they constantly tell you that you will never manage that the task is far too big, that it may even be irresponsible of your superior to entrust only one person with this gigantic task.
So it happens that you actually spend valuable minutes getting upset about the task and/or dealing with its indepartibility. As if that weren’t enough, you notice that these thoughts are increasingly following you. No, they don’t just take a few seconds or minutes, but become your shadow, an ongoing companion who won’t let you go.
After all, time passes. At the end of the week, you will then realize — as expected — that the task was simply too big for you and you could not do it on time.
Of course, it can also be done the other way around. However, we often prefer to deal with the negative aspects and prepare for our failure for self-protection. And just like this, the seemingly real fiction quickly becomes reality — the prophecy has thus occurred.
But was the task actually doomed to failure? Or maybe the thoughts and the associated loss of time made you fail? How much time could you have saved if your head had remained focused?
The unconscious intervention
At the beginning, I already indicated that the “self-fulfilling prophecy” can also be used in a positive sense. But how does it work? To do this, imagine your brain like a supercomputer. The result always plays back the quality of your input. Therefore, always try to communicate forward and positive with you. Let’s take the example of the diet here. Now put yourself in the following situation: You are on the scales again. The needle settles in the right area. What do you think? You probably think like most of us: “Why have I gained weight again?”, or: “Why don’t I lose weight?”. Well, do you recognize yourself in this example? Your brain will give you endless reasons why you just don’t lose weight or why you’ve gained weight again.
At the end of the day, you will then be demotivated and don’t really feel like continuing. But it doesn’t have to be like that. For example, you could also have asked yourself the following: “What can I do to lose even more weight?”, or “What can I try next?”. Again, your head will respond promptly and provide you with many new ideas. The only difference is that the result neither makes you sad nor pulls you down. Rather the opposite. Because you will have many great ideas on how to continue working on your goals without demotivating yourself. Therefore: Always pay attention to how you talk to yourself and try to be as positive and forward-questioning as possible, but never turned into the past or negative.
What can I do about it?
Attentiveness
Learn to look at your mind from the outside and don’t let yourself be carried into the whirlpool of feelings. Recognize early on that your head is currently distracting you from your actual task or wasting valuable time thinking back and forth.
Positive mantras for subconscious strengthening of the self
Don’t worry, it won’t spontaneously be spiritual here. Mantras are small memoranda that penetrate the subconscious through frequent repetition and strengthen it. If you realize once again that your thoughts want to drag you into a dark pull, then you could say to yourself:
“Yes, I can do it!”, “The task is a piece of cake!”, “I will prove it to myself!”, “If someone can do that, it’s me!”, “There is no unsolvable task for me, I can do it!” …
Did you notice? Right! Mantras are basically no less different from “self-fulfilling prophecies”. Because both are very much about how you communicate with yourself.
Over time, things get better
At first, just like me, it will still be very difficult for you to listen to your own voices or actively perceive them at all. Over time, however, they become increasingly clear and you become better and better at recognizing and controlling them. Never give up and be aware that there is a long way, where unfortunately there are no abbreviations. Don’t be discouraged by this, rather think of the reward for all your efforts. Remember to pull yourself out of the unconscious strudel of thoughts and gradually go your own, ideal path.
Everything that is may be. Anything that may be can change.
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