What it’s Like Being an Introvert After a Weekend of Socializing

Plus, how to regroup after too much stimulation.

Alexandra Tsuneta
Aug 13, 2019 · 4 min read
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I’m what you might call an “extroverted introvert”. I can get along fine when talking to strangers, I’m even charismatic, but inside I’m simultaneously screaming. Preferably, I am alone, or with my chosen people (but only one at a time, please). Sometimes, however, we need to do things, things that mean socializing and being “on” all day. For me, that was this weekend.

To sum it up, Saturday I had a giant yard sale that lasted from 10:00am until about 3:00pm. During this yard sale, I not only had to socialize with strangers, but a lot of my friends showed up. Thus, my attention span was stretched. Almost directly after the yard sale, I had to go see family because I am moving states and they wanted to spend time with me. After that, somebody came over to get a plant. Thus, from around 8:00am until about 9:00pm I was talking to people.

This may not seem like a lot to you, if you are an extrovert, but to an introvert this is basically a nightmare hellscape. On Sunday, I woke up feeling like death, and I had plans with a former employer and her child. I wanted to die. We met at the park, I played with her kid for an hour and a half, then we went to eat. Again, busy until about 2:00pm. Nightmare hellscape.

By Sunday night, I felt so emotionally and physically exhausted that when I had to go to the store to buy some oat milk and look at frames for some art prints we want framed before our move, I laid down, on the ground, at the store, in public. My husband, who is very much not an introvert, had no fucking clue what I was doing. I 👏 am 👏 so 👏 tired. This is what is called an “introvert hangover” — it’s a real thing and it’s worse than an actual hangover.

So, how we do avoid the hangover? Well, it’s easy: just do nothing with nobody all the time. Okay? Great. Article over. Just kidding, avoiding the hangover may not be possible; but here are some things you can do to regroup if you’ve recently done way too much, and you feel like your battery has run dry, your energy sources are depleted, and you might also lay down on the grocery store floor and die because shopping for milk is too damn difficult.

Take a full day to do nothing.

Seriously, do nothing. Order your groceries or just order some Thai food. Lay in bed. Nap. Knit. Binge watch the entire new season of GLOW. Just do things that require no work, and no communication with the outside world.

Nap, nap, and nap some more.

Sometimes you just need a nap, or full blown sleep. Bed is your best friend.

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Get off of social media.

Delete it from your phone, just don’t check that shit. Social media is the dumpster fire of the internet. It makes you feel like garbage, and you have to stare at somebody’s fake-awesome-curated life while you’re in a t-shirt with no underwear or pants on, looking like Winnie The Pooh, eating Thai food straight from the box. Just stay off social media for the day.

In fact, put your phone on “do not disturb”.

The less socializing, the better. Nobody is gonna die if you don’t answer your text messages immediately. Just zone out.

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Basically, just put your body on “sleep mode”. Do things that require no socialization and no energy. Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself, is do nothing at all, especially when you’re in the perfect-storm of moving parts that are depleting all of your energy. There has to be room for self-preservation; if you don’t take the time to recharge, eventually you are going to blow up on somebody for literally no reason at all. Or, you might sleep on the grocery store floor. Either way, it’s not a good look.

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Alexandra Tsuneta

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