The ONLY person you need permission from is YOURSELF -A response to Gary Vaynerchuk

Colin W Lau
Aug 25, 2017 · 3 min read

It’s fucked up when those closest to you make the choice to not support what you do. I’ve seen some parents and siblings (thankfully not mine) who are especially guilty of comparing what you do to Uncle Rick’s kid who’s a Lawyer and drives a different Mercedes to work everyday. Who the fuck cares. Just learn to not give a fuck.

When your family compares you and makes it a point to let you know how you compare, deep down they are just concerned for you and are worried you cannot make a living based on the fact that you are not bringing in the money (yet). They just dont seem to understand that hearing how Uncle Rick’s son has got 10 BMWs and a big house does not make them a better person than you. Nor does this information help to give you any perspective.

You can only use this information to fuel your own drive to succeed and show them that the path you have chosen is right for you.

I’m sure much of it has to do with the competitiveness of subconsciously wanting to posture against each other too. Remember that for many who choose not to create something that will leave a legacy, have settled on their reality that having kids is their only way of leaving their mark on the world. (I’m not hating on having kids… Ijust believe there is more to your life purpose as a human being than to pro-create. Be thankful you were not born a dog. If you so choose…have kids and make them your reason to help create a brighter future)

If on the other hand you receive hate that is seemingly more constructive… listen to understand, filter it for what information is of use to you, use it to gain perspective to your world view and strengthn your own conviction.

Command some respect for yourself. Commit to your terms. Stop asking for permission to define your own success and get out of your own fucking way.

Just do you, do what makes you happy, hustle through the hate… show them… prove them all wrong. Accept that you will encounter resistance and go fucking do it anyway!

Thanks for reading my rant! I’m still new at putting my thoughts down into words beyond a comment on social media. So I apologise if this post seems a bit disjointed when reading it, I’m litteraly just typing as I would speak. I’m getting more confident every day.

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