Find a Mentor; Better Yet, Find Two

Jerome Hardaway
The SitRep
Published in
3 min readJan 3, 2017

Seeking mentorship is one of the most given pieces of advice to people seeking to level up professionally and finding a mentor is usually one of the top “New Year, New Me” resolutions, but the problem is that no one teaches you how to find a mentor, what to look for in a mentor, or how you can make the Mentor/Protege relationship feel mutual and not parasitic. Its a frequently asked question to me and I am hoping that I can share some insights with you.

Be Honest With Yourself

This is the first and hardest step. The easiest way to get the most out of mentorship is to identify what you want, what you need help on, and what you are willing to work on before you even start cold emailing people. You can then use this list to create an action plan as you build a list of possible mentors, as well as a script for when you approach people that you desire to mentor you. A little thought and time spent on this will go a long way in your goals and actually impress your your mentor-selects, which increases your chances of them saying yes.

Find a Mentor for Each Skill

Not everyone will have every skill you need to succeed, so its not unusual to have more than one mentor. I personally prefer it, as it gives me something of purpose to switch to when I suffer burnout on the other mentor’s skill building drills ( I also have a board, so its like having 14 mentors, plus 2 ). I would focus on no more than two and separate them by hard skills and soft skills, that way you can be well rounded. My meetings with Guilherme to discuss programming and technical ideas I have for Vets Who Code helps me streamline our technical todo’s while Rachel is like having my own personal Gary Vee. Her knowledge of PR and social media, particularly in the tech space, has not only helped me discover a bad deal but helped create opportunities for VWC that without her simply wouldn’t have become reality.

Share Your Wins : Thank Your Mentor

I think this is the most important thing to do that often goes neglected. My favorite Hip Hop line is by Rick Ross when he says “ You weren’t with me shootin’ in the gym”, a reference to a person that is not around while you are working towards success. We all have had these people around at some point in our life and frankly, they suck. So now that you have found people who are willing to “shoot in the gym” with you, be unabashed in showing your appreciation. It involves them in the process, makes them feel good, and they can use it to build their careers, so seeing you succeed and you attributing those wins to the application of lessons and time they have invested in you makes the relationship mutual. I loved sharing with Guilherme about becoming a Ruby Rogue Panelist and could not wait to give Rachel on of our Vets Who Code Challenge Coins as a way to say that I appreciate the time they invest in me. Be grateful : Say Thank you.

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Jerome Hardaway
The SitRep

Veteran | Sr Front End @ CBS Interactive | Kettlebells make the whisky taste better