Cheerful Relating — Communication

Sowmya Gopal
Jan 12 · 2 min read

September 28, 2020

Namah Te dear All,

i hope this message finds all my fellow seekers infinitely, incessantly and independently Joyous!

THIS MESSAGE IS NOT SPAM! This message is just very very very late…
With few responsibilities, in June of 2009 i began sharing our E-Vichara every Monday.
With many responsibilities, in January of 2013 i began sharing our E-Vichara every other Monday.
With many more responsibilities, at the beginning of 2020 i began slowing down sharing our E-Vichara.
With the aspiration to be more responsible, at the beginning of 2021 i begin speeding up sharing our E-Vichara.
Gratitude for your patience to understand this offering…

No one will judge you more than a parent.
No one will annoy you more than a spouse.
No one will disappoint you more than a child.
Not being in relationships is easy and so being cheerful is instinctive.
Being in relationships is hard and so being cheerful is intentional.

The Happiness Series IV explored how NOT to be judged-annoyed-disappointed. And the same is offered through the E-Vichara

E-Vichara (September 28, 2020) — — Cheerful Relating — Communication

  • Misunderstanding provokes reactions and understanding inspires responses — if you want to be understood then you need to be understanding
  • The purpose of communication is to commune — the purpose of communing is to come-to-One
  • We all live in a communal external world yet we all live in our individual internal worlds — the cause for the communal world to fragment to the individual world is the nonstop interpreting of the mind
  • A constructive thought/word/action is one that helps and a destructive thought/word/action is one that harms — if the volume of your thoughts is making you impotent in filtering the constructive from the destructive, make your thoughts more tactile by journaling, enabling you to ‘see’ your thoughts more clearly
  • Whatever you cannot communicate with verbal language do so with body language — active expressing and active listening encourages you/all to feel more accepted-healed-protected
  • No one is a perfect relative, every one can be an evolving relative — the more one practices self-criticism the more one will practice self-forgiveness


Chinmaya Mission Niagara

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