Are you experiencing ODF (online dating fatigue)?

Major signs of ODF and how to combat the syndrome

If you’re one of the many souls suffering from Online Dating Fatigue, you’re not alone! Online Dating Fatigue, or ODF, has become a real cause for concern.

Viola.AI lists some of the major signs of ODF and how to combat the syndrome:

• Logging online with no hope — So you’ve been on a few sites and have come up with…zero. You have made the effort, written individual letters to each potential partner, and no one has responded. That eagerness first displayed has all but disappeared.
• It’s a chore to write a book — You have pretty much gone all out on the first 200 emails you sent. You’re not a fantastic writer so after a long day’s work, coming home and thinking of eye-catching introductory lines and scintillating conversation is the last thing you want to keep doing.
• Dreading those first dates — You’ve been on so many that you may as well reserve a table at your favorite restaurant, and have potential suitors wait in line. There are numerous reasons why you’ve come to dread first dates. Some of them include no chemistry between the couple, they didn’t look like their photo (this is a common factor!), they or you didn’t want a second date etc.
• You’re unreachable — You think you’ve done a great job at customizing your emails and ensuring they speak to that person. You’ve set forth your hours where you can be contacted….and it’s hasn’t worked.
• You’re way too picky — I think everyone can be accused of this at some point. We have a basic idea of our perfect partner, but that’s ok right? You know what you want and you’re holding out for that. Any hitters? Nope? Hmm…
• You’re getting the same results…and it’s not what you want.

The above list contains some of the more common signs of ODF, and in cases like these, one can see why each point has become a problem.

Viola.AI aims to provide lifelong services for their clientele, and their advice goes as follows:

• Dating takes efforts, online dating takes 1000% more effort because you’re literally a number amongst hundreds of thousands of potential hopefuls searching for the “one”.
• If you have ever signed up for online dating, you may have experienced the empty inbox a time or three. Usually, this is a sign that your emails aren’t hitting the right note. Perhaps you’re using a very generic hello, and believe it or not, people can sense cookie-cutter emails. Standing out is a must. After all, if this were a real-life scenario, it would be two pairs of eyes meeting across a crowded room — make the effort to be original. No one looks like you (unless you’re a twin) so your introductory email should never be a standard hello.
• On the other hand, perhaps you have gone all out during those first few emails, and after being rejected or ignored outright, you’ve lost faith that online dating works out. The thing is, over 50% of our clientele have been through numerous dates before finding us. The saying “you have to kiss a few frogs to land a prince/princess” is true. You need to put in the legwork for the grand payoff. Have faith and be patient. Don’t place too much stress on yourself, dating should be fine - online or not.
• The third point may resonate with a number of you out there. While this may seem somewhat cold, Viola is here to teach our clientele to become discerning members. If you’re going on too many dates, and none of them are working out, perhaps fine tune your criteria. There is no need to accept every offer of a first date. Think about you choosing your first “real” car — the one where you actually had the chance to save and pick out the one you wanted. It took time, it may have taken a good few years, and it certainly made you pour over numerous choices out there before coming to a final decision. The complexities of dating are 100% harder than picking out a car or home — take a break if you need it. Unwind and relax, dating shouldn’t have a time limit on it so don’t rush.
• Being picky is a flaw many of us can be accused of; however, this is something that can be easily rectified if you’re willing to open yourself up to new possibilities. The same goes for being unreachable. You’re not a business so providing hours where they can reach you seems both odd and somewhat fishy. You don’t want your potential partner thinking you’re already married (you can reach me between 12 and 3pm only) or weird (I can only chat during x hours). This shows you’re already imposing certain restrictions and the relationship hasn’t gotten off the ground as yet!

If you keep on ending up with the same type of response (unwanted that is) on numerous sites, you need to take a look at your profile and manner of writing. Aside from the annoying spammers, perhaps your words are sending out the wrong message?

ODF isn’t the end of the world. It can be annoying, frustrating, and frankly, it can make one absolutely miserable. The trick is ODF can be beaten if you’re smart enough to recognize the signs.

Viola.AI is here to guide you every step of the way!

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