All Roads Lead to Biphobia: Confronting Prejudice as a Bi Man

On The Crossroads of Hetero & Homonormativity

Imagine standing at the brink of the universe as a child in a dream. You are asked to choose: to leap into the unknown or to stay within the safety of the known. What do you choose?

For me, this is not a hypothetical scenario or a sleep-induced fantasy. This is a metaphor for my life.

This piece is about my journey as Ross, a person who happens to be Black, male, and bi, and how each path presented before me is laced with a deadly element — biphobia.

No matter relationship status as a bi+ person — single, dating, same-sex partnered, different-sex partnered, or polyamorous — we are all faced with a unique question:

How do I survive the binary paradigm?

Why aren’t there more roads to freedom and visibility?

How do I breathe in what feels like a cage?

Imagine a gathering of people from diverse backgrounds, some young, some seasoned, some bearing the wisdom age has provided, some with Black, Hispanic, Asian, and bi+ identities — standing at a crossroads, each facing a unique labyrinth of experience. While our paths vary, we share common encounters with biphobia: a whisper of judgment here, a…