My Bisexuality is Not Impossible nor Irrelevant

I am happily, monogamously married and I am still bisexual.

As a monogamously married bisexual, almost every reaction I receive upon making this known falls into one of two camps. People either think my bisexuality is impossible or they believe it is irrelevant.

I say “almost” because I am fortunate enough to have experienced some completely accepting and validating reactions (my heartfelt gratitude to those people in my life) but, let’s just say, it’s been extremely rare. I’ve found that even the people who I’d expect to be the most understanding — the outspoken LGBTQ+ allies or members of the greater LGBTQ+ community themselves — often hold beliefs on monogamous bisexuality that fall into the domain of impossibility or irrelevancy.

My bisexuality is not impossible.

Impossibility is the most common reaction because, in the broadest sense, so many people do not believe bisexuality is real or valid in any form.

People who believe bisexuality is impossible don’t always say it so bluntly. Instead, they say that bisexuals are just confused, or they are doing it for attention, or they’re only experimenting, or they are in denial. These people say that bisexuality is just a phase, that all bisexuals will eventually choose a side: heterosexual or homosexual (or be doomed to confusion their entire lives).