Dating someone who speaks a different language: How to make a multilingual relationship work

Zuzana Pápayová
May 17, 2020 · 3 min read

Since globalization hits it off in the world, many people found themselves dating or being interested in dating someone who doesn’t share their native language. It has its peculiarities.

If you are asking yourself “How can I date someone who doesn’t speak the same language as me”, we in the free Flashcard app Vocabulary Miner did small research for getting first-hand experience and advice from people already in bilingual relationships. Let’s explore it.

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We asked 10 Czech ladies about their ongoing long-term multilingual relationships. If your crush doesn’t speak your language, these pieces of advice can be worth your time.

Can a relationship work with a language barrier?

Yes, it surely can. Relationships, especially with language barriers, need a huge focus on effective communication. A multilingual relationship would take many more gestures, active listening, much more patience, and fewer presumptions. Calming down your emotions and assumptions of what you THINK they said would be a very important step.

More about effort and fun in bilingual relationships HERE.

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In what situations do we find the most language difficulties? Why is the language barrier a problem?

You should not look at your multilingual relationship or date through rose-colored glasses. There are some common problems that will probably come along the way.

“The language barrier rises up every time we visit my parents in the Czech Republic. They do not speak neither English nor Italian, so they cannot even chit-chat,” Markéta, who now teaches Italian, explains the troublesome situations.

Heads-up for some specific situations like family gatherings, emotions, and slang HERE.

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How do you overcome language barriers in a relationship?

Multilingual relationships tend to spiral down to misunderstanding real quick. “I used to nod and smile when I didn’t understand. Now I know better. It is especially important to embrace your language mistakes and ask 10 times if needed because that’s how you learn and build intimacy, too,” Míša said drawing from her Czech-Italian experiences.

More about how happy multilingual relationships need considerate speaking, listening, and observing HERE .

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Michaela, inspired by her experience with Czech- Italian relationship, created a special Word list “Love & relationship” that you can find in the Flashcard app Vocabulary Miner in Czech, Slovak, Italian, German, and English.

And if you want to make learning language easier, check how to use Google Translate and a Flashcard app.

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