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How to Detach from Toxic People

In a loving way…

Rosa Diaz-Casal
Walks of Life

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I’ve never been one to label people but there are some people that tend to behave in ways that make you feel emotionally drained, beat up or upset. This is unhealthy or “toxic”.

This includes people who are controlling, manipulating, overly jealous or playing the victim — just to name a few.

Most likely, those who display these toxic behaviors are struggling with some kind of inner turmoil. They may have experienced trauma in their lives, and they’ve picked up toxic attitudes and behaviors along the way.

Hanging around these people can cause us to feel upset, drained and unsafe. You have a choice to make if they are not willing to address their unhealthy behaviors.

You can continue to hang around them and leave feeling upset or detach from them in a loving manner so you can experience more peace. This is not always an easy decision.

If the attachment is unhealthy, the longer you stay in the relationship, the more you give away of yourself, your power, self-esteem, and self-worth.

Maybe their approval of you has become the only thing that matters. If you don’t get it, you’re really sad, you self-sabotage, and you keep on trying harder to get their approval.

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