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The Path of the Lone Wolf

Not everyone has the courage to stand outside the crowd and be different…

Rosa Diaz-Casal
Walks of Life

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Photo by patrice schoefolt: https://www.pexels.com/photo/dangerous-wolf-in-forest-looking-at-the-camera-11245929/

More and more people are starting to discover that to have a preference for being alone is not a bad thing. And something is not deeply wrong with you if you have this preference.

There’s nothing to feel ashamed about and the loneliness is not from being alone, it’s from not being understood.

Imagine you were someone who spent a lot of time alone and it was normal, and you never grew up being shamed for that. Then being alone would not be attributed to something negative. You would not associate loneliness with being alone. When I wasn’t behaving well as a kid, I’d get sent to my room. Being alone was punishment — we have this engrained in our DNA.

We have to start to change this way of thinking, this perception. This is especially for people who gain great insight and peace in solitude from being alone. This needs to be normalized.

During the pandemic, social isolation was not so hard for me. It was actually a blessing. I relished in those social isolation periods. Other people suffered a lot.

When I was sent to my room as a kid, it wasn’t such a bad thing. There was always plenty for me to do in there. I didn’t have any fear of missing out.

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