A Woman’s Dressing Reveals More Of Her Confidence Than Morals
The ones that appear confident are the ones who make their statement without giving a damn about the moral righteousness of their peers
Yesterday I was in the bus when I saw a Queen walk by, she radiated with authentic comfort in her own skin and fired up rays of elegance with her simple dressing. She had a gown on, she is really tall and the gown revealed all she intended it to. Staring at her, made me realize how much confidence we can all choose to see from the dressing of women.
While I kept being a creep, I noticed another woman by the corner of a roadside stand encroaching on the ambience of this Queen with so much disgust. In my mind I could only wonder why, and this led me to ask many questions. Asking these questions made me understand that there are so many qualities embedded in how women choose to dress, and these qualities reveal more of their level of confidence than morals.
“Over the years I have learned that what is important in a dress is the woman who is wearing it.” — Yves Saint Laurent
Sometimes we want to jump straight into conclusion and opine what we think about a woman’s choice of clothing. We forget the person wearing the dress, and place all our focus only on what we think about the dress.
A reserved woman choosing to wear loud trendy clothing doesn’t necessarily mean she is becoming promiscuous. Choosing to see the woman in the dress, entails wanting to know why that choice of clothing was made. She might want to be more open-minded, try new things, take risks, boost her confidence, feel sexier, we have to stop criticizing the behaviour of women simply because we were lucky enough to behold their beauty.
“A woman’s dress should be like a barbed-wire fence: serving its purpose without obstructing the view.” — Sophia Lauren
Just like the barbed-wire is filled with so much confidence in itself that it lets you see what’s in the compound but you dare not cross it, so is the Woman. She is powerful with each step, you may admire what you see, but the way she carries herself makes it clear that no disrespect would be permitted.
The exposure you think you have access to would fail you, once you voice out your opinions on her looks and painfully discover how much she doesn’t care. Contrary to your opinion, she may be dressing for all eyes to see her, but definitely not your very own eyes.
So instead of highlighting her morals as a way to compensate your ego, why not acknowledge her confidence and draw some positive energy from it.
“Style is a reflection of your attitude and your personality.” — Shawn Ashmore
There is this notion that every lady is obligated to stick to the moral code when it comes to dressing. The thing is, what exactly is this moral code, who set it and what business do you as a woman have with their perspective.
You owe no one any explanation, your attitude and energy can never be matched by everyone, this doesn’t take away your morals or make you any less descent. Your dressing can be as quirky as you are, it doesn’t make you less stylish or reasonable, it may just mean that your environment is not open minded enough.
Being called loose can hurt, but as a lady you have to know that not everyone would understand how you can rock your personality with that much confidence. Their inability to fathom your attitude, would make them label you loose and uncultured instead of realizing that you’re simply just being free.
“To me, clothing is a form of self-expression — there are hints about who you are in what you wear.” — Marc Jacobs
At work yesterday, we all watched an award show, and there was various display of fashion. There is this trendy style where gowns are being worn but with a slit. This particular celebrity wore her gown with a much more longer slit, and outrage sparked off across the office.
One of my co-workers expressed his fair share of disgust, then I said loudly how much I admire that kind of fashion. My opinion led him to ask me if I would admire that dress when it’s worn by my mother. I said yes, without a doubt.
I don’t feel being a mum should come in between you and your personality. Self expression can continue all through life and suppressing what makes you comfortable and feel good all because you don’t want to be labelled only tells more on your quest for validation. It could also mean you’re just scared, which is ok, but most times morals play little or no part in this.
I represent morals through my dressing, doesn’t necessarily mean I dress in morality. This is why confidence goes a long way in boosting our self awareness and letting us see beyond the blurs of morality in our clothing.
“Elegance is a question of personality, more than one’s clothing.” — Jean-Paul Gaultier
Simplicity in one’s demeanour is not only a product of what they wear. Some women wear expensive clothing, but yet radiate humility, poise, and confidence. The personality of a woman is an expression of herself and what she sees herself as, not a validation of anyone’s moral code.
Keeping up with every moral would only diminish your self identity and get you conforming to having no voice at all, just so you can feel free of condemnation.
We have to understand that, no matter how much of ourselves we hide for the approval of others, we would still be disliked and gossiped about. People would always be irritated by the aura we give off, and would show contempt for the energy we bring when we walk into the room.
Morals should never encroach on your confidence but rather work side by side with it. Morals can guide you and your confidence can represent you, giving your voice a chance with the microphone. The dressing of a woman tells her story, a story not everyone must relate with.
“Style is knowing who you are, what you want to say, and not giving a damn.” — Gore Vidal
What I see everyday are just people projecting their lack of confidence on others. Not everyone can be bold enough to rock their dream style of clothing, and that’s ok. Understanding this allows us realize that people not caring what others think about their sense of style doesn’t mean they lack morals.
Almost every lady truly knows what they want, they stare into the mirror and what they want to look like is so clear to them. The ones that appear confident are the ones who make their statement without giving a damn about the moral righteousness of their peers.
Dressing would always affect our way of life, but as women who face the larger chunk of criticism, confidence should always thrive over moral servitude. In the end, the dress doesn’t wear you, you wear it.
