This Is A Time To Understand Our Bodies and Ourselves
#3 You don’t need so many people in your life
Gone are the days when there were distractions in our day, to get us through our poor nightlife choices. Now, during this lock-down, we have to face our bodies, ourselves and understand it.
I have been isolated at home for three weeks now, and I have been lucky enough to figure out new things about myself and the essence of a 24-hour day.
I would share a few of these with you:
Masturbation Is a beautiful practice
Our sexual bodies just like our stomachs develop cravings and rotating your sexual diet doesn’t make you irresponsible or dirty.
Being away from the hustle and bustle of the busy roads and traffic smokes has allowed me get more in tune with my body and understand what it likes. I have been masturbating for years now, but it was always as a result of urge and not exploration.
The excess leisure time during this isolation period has finally opened me up to listening to what my body is willing to try when it meets a partner in a few months to come.
I am now aware of the kind of porn I like, the kind of sexual practice I am open to and the way I like to get down with myself in the shower. For the first time in so many years, I got to masturbate and tell myself the absolute truth ‘That was nice, I enjoyed it’.
Instead of craving masturbation and then fighting the urge, I am now able to do it without prejudice when I need it and carry on with the rest of my day a free spirit.
Sleep Is most necessary for health, and not energy
My sleeping pattern has been the absolute worst this past week, and realizing how much I needed to reboot was such a crucial decision.
I’ve been drowning myself in hilarious Instagram live videos and finding sleep by 5–6.am. The next day then starts by 11.30.am and a truckload of feverish head heaviness.
The part that pisses me off, is how no amount of extra hours on late sleep counts. Whether you sleep for even ten hours, the lateness of the sleep simply ruins the entire day.
During these few days, I was full of energy but my health was deteriorating. All that daily energy was useless because I had to work through eye pains and spontaneous fevers.
Sleep it turns out, does more for my health than it does for my energy. This is why good sleep and exercise is really effective for overall health, the sleep keeps you feeling good, while the exercise adds some energy and nitro boost to that feeling.
You don’t need so many people in your life
Since the beginning of the lock-down, I have made the least calls ever. Apparently I never needed to check up on that many people, only those that matter.
The silence and plenty time for introspection has made me value my personal peace, and place that priority over every other thing.
Reaching out to so many people can be really draining. Understanding that you only need a few of those relationships, helps you in choosing the right people in your life.
Time is valuable, so I am trying not to waste it disturbing people and myself.
Everyday is a single day
Throughout this period, I have began to take my time as a whole and not in bits. Everyday now is all a single day.
Before, I measure my progress by the day, and this makes me rush into completing a task, just to make sure that day counts. Now, I take my time, indeed I was never running out of time, I was only chasing my shadows and scared it’ll catch up.
I’m finally more concerned with doing my best work, than beating the clock. These deadlines I give myself, are all nothing but insecurities finding their way into my creativity.
I want to publish a complete story, not a story that beats the deadline, but one that reflects who I am, and how much I’ve really learnt.
So now, be it a day or a week, I’m more interested in writing a better story, than increasing my number of finished drafts. No more throwing crates of eggs on a brick wall. No one is timing us, all they expect is our best.
I tell stories that matter, feel free to join me here.
