♃CRI CASE 4 — “I Couldn’t Bite My Own Kid.”
Unfortunate; you could have saved me the trouble of cleaning up your mess. The Call Really Is Coming From Inside Your House (“CRI”).
I began The Call Really Is Coming from Inside Your House (“CRI”) series as an adjunct to There Is No Such Thing as a White Ally. It illustrates one point, on repeat: stop shifting your failures to us, and then offering to “help” us accommodate them. That’s a hard thing to recognize in the moment, and it will take decades of practice to master.
CRI is meant to help with that. When I encounter these events, I address them as stand alone articles to share with you. You can follow along as I first identify the CRI point, then walk through the burden shifting chain, then process it, and finally return it to its rightful owner.
This is CRI Case Study 4 — “I Couldn’t Bite My Own Kid.” ~Best
I was talking to a very good friend of mine, a person I adore, about a piece I just published. In it, I told the story of me biting my oldest son — bear with me — as an abject lesson and to clarify that overwhelming force to redress racism is not personal: it’s business. The story:
“When my oldest son was about two, he bit me on the back and then calmly stepped back to gauge my reaction. I just as calmly reached…
