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We Need to Talk

Date him because he’s dope to you, not them

Every trend becomes a thing of the past, including relationships

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When CNN’s John Blake asked me one question, it made me pause. I’m not someone who minces my words. If I think it, I’ll usually say it and cannot recall one time when I truly regretted my words. It’s probably why I gravitated to Toastmasters International public speaking clubs so…




Let’s chat about my oddball thoughts on family, relationships and activism — with a dose of comedy, too.

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Shamontiel L. Vaughn

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