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Is it ‘patriarchal’ to tell a girl her first time having sex will be painful?

Complicated discussions regarding black girls and sexuality

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“That is the most unromantic reason to lose your virginity that I’ve ever heard,” my mother said to me.

I laughed in response. “Hey, man, I didn’t want anyone to one-up me anymore. Everyone around me knew how…



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Shamontiel L. Vaughn

When I'm not writing about news, politics and relationships on "We Need to Talk" or cracking jokes on "Tickled," find me on Substack. Visit Shamontiel.com