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Why I won’t smile on command

Guys, please stop asking women to smile just because you’re around

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I was walking back from the gas station, getting ready to fill up the gas tank of my U-Haul, when it happened. Just when I’d chosen my fuel type and lifted the pump, the guy on the other side leaned around to tell me: “You don’t have to look so mean. Smile more often.”




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Shamontiel L. Vaughn

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