Adventures in Compromise
Ryan is a man of routine. He prefers the company of a few over the company of many. He uses reason over emotion in almost every decision in his life. He loves to cook, is a morning person, and eats every meal at the dining room table.
I’m… the opposite.
To say our first couple of years together included a lot of compromise would be an understatement. To say deciding where to go on our honeymoon was easy… well, let’s just say it was no small feat.
We didn’t find ourselves on the beaches of Fiji (my choice) or on the top of a mountain (Ryan’s choice).
Instead, we found ourselves at Gateway Canyons, a luxury adventure resort located in one of the most remote places in Colorado.
To get there, we drove 5.5 hours from Salt Lake City through 20 miles of dirt roads (okay, okay, the dirt roads were a recommendation by google maps, and technically there is a real paved road to get there, but that doesn’t take away from the epic-ness our dirt road route!)
We woke up early. We slept in. We hiked (in a canyon that we had to cross a river to get to) & we spent an afternoon at the pool, drinking cocktails by the fire pit.
We ordered room service for breakfast & we climbed some rocks.
We rode UTVs to the top of the canyon & we got a couples massage.
We mountain biked, visited a car museum, walked trails, ate good food, saw some lightning, visited Arches National Park, and got to wake up in the middle of the night to a thunder storm!
All in all, I’d call it a pretty amazing week. The perfect honeymoon for us.
Of all the relationship and marriage advice we’ve gotten, the best and most popular has been to communicate. Our honeymoon, and the start of our life together, has been filled with so many amazing conversations: about the good stuff, the hard stuff, and the ridiculously mundane. I feel so lucky to say that Ryan is my favorite person to talk to, to debate with, to dream and conspire with. When we come to discussions from two completely different places, it’s not always easy, but we are both patient and we always try to find the middle ground together. That’s how perfect honeymoons are made!
Here’s to a lifetime of finding the middle-ground with my favorite person.