My Wife and I have been Married for 14 Years

Let’s talk about that.

Nathan Weaver 🐼
Aug 1, 2017 · 5 min read

I married a strong woman and that’s a good thing.

There’s a prevalent feeling in our society, probably the whole world, that if you marry a strong (female) wife, then you must be some sort of weakling male. Well, that’s hogwash. And wouldn’t a strong male be stronger when accompanied by a strong female? The whole idea rests on the idea that the two genders are at odds or warring against each other.

Strong women, yo. This is good.

Year One.

As I sat down to write this piece for my wife and the world, I dug up some music. I wanted to listen to something that would resonate with the time of our marriage. Oddly enough, I found an album of the top 20 hits of The Mamas and the Papas and I found a song that worked. All of the songs took me back to that first year of marriage.

Nobody can tell you there’s only one song worth singing. They may try and sell you, because it hangs them up to see someone like you. But you gotta make your own kind of music, sing your own special song. Make your own kind of music, even if nobody else sings along. — The Mamas and the Papas

It seems like we’ve been making our own kind of music for a long time now. Fourteen years, in fact.

Marriage recipes.

No, this isn’t a Pinterest board. No marriage recipes. A lot of marriages struggle, stumble, stick it out, or fail. We’ve had bumps, of course. Like everyone. I think one of the most important keys for us has been putting down a blueprint in front of us and trying to stick to it. Here are a few things we discussed before marriage and implemented upon tying the metaphorical knot…

We fill each other’s gaps.

One thing we used to joke about, even before we got married, was that we were complete opposites. Years later we proved that theory scientifically with the Briggs test confirming that we were in fact — opposites.

Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath.

This above text is from Ephesians 4:26 of the Bible. And it was something I really wanted us to apply to our marriage in a very literal sense.

In conclusion.

Nobody’s perfect. And that’s cool. Perfect people are morons. But, when two people decide to work together and live together, it can really make for a lifetime of happiness and memories. And even kids, sometimes.

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Storyteller across many mediums. Actor, author, comedian, filmmaker. Freelance as a blogger, copywriter, and social media manager.

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