5 Reasons Why Single Life is the Way to Go

I mean, dating is fun and all, but being single just hits different. At least for me.

Young couple making out
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Love is a beautiful thing, ain’t it? I mean, look at the couple in this picture. Who wouldn’t love being in this position? I’m not referring to their actual position, even though it’s a damn good one (I’m almost drooling)! I’m talking about the position of kicking it with someone who loves you as much as you love them.

The last time I wanted this for myself, it didn’t work out so well. The truth is it never even began to work out, but that’s a story for another day.

I believe that everyone who comes across this article has been in a relationship at some point in their lives. If you’ve never been in one, you’re a rare breed, I salute you, and you are going to love this article!

As we all know, every relationship has its ups and downs, lefts and rights, tops and bottoms, whatever that means. I wouldn’t know. I just made this up. On the other hand, when you’re single, there’s no relationship drama waiting for you. I mean, it does get boring and lonely sometimes at the single castle, especially when you see your peers falling in love left, right, and center, not to mention the libidinousness that pops out of nowhere. That one is the worst, but it’s nothing that I can’t handle. If you’re wondering if I ever release during those moments, the answer is an honest and enthusiastic no. If there’s one superpower that I possess, it is the power of self-control.

Anyway, let’s get to the top 5 reasons why I’m such a massive fan of the single life. You will also learn a thing or two about how to be single.

You have more time for self-growth and self-development

I have grown so much as a man and as a human being for the past 5 years, and I have discovered things about myself that I know I wouldn’t have discovered if it wasn’t for the “me time.” Check out some of those things in the article below.

For example, the last time I wanted to be in a relationship, I clinged at the thought of being with a certain person. I chased after her for 3 consecutive years. I was convinced I had found the one, but the universe had other plans for me. Like I said, this is a story for another day, perhaps a book.

After moving on, I spent a lot of time discovering, learning about, and building myself. One of the things I realized during my path to self-realization is that I was far from being ready to be in a relationship. Like I said, I clinged at the thought of being with that one girl I fell in love with the second I met her. I was needy and desperate. Who in their right mind chases after one piece of ass for 3 years? I guess I was a man drunk in love until I realized that it was time for me to pull the plug and let go, and it was the best decision I made for myself.

Had I been in a relationship with this person at the time I was dying to be with her, I’m pretty sure it wouldn’t work out between us because of my previous neediness and clinginess. I wasn’t ready for her like I thought I was. In fact, I had fallen in love with the idea of falling in love.

You know, not so long ago, I heard someone in a YouTube video say something along the lines of “whenever there’s a chase, there’s always someone running.” That’s basically what happened between myself and this girl. I was the chaser, and she was the runner. Before her, I had never chased after anyone else before. She was the first and last.

I no longer believe in forcing things, be it a relationship, friendship, emotional connection, intelligence, success, or self-confidence. I have worked so hard to develop my self-confidence, self-esteem, emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and self-love, and I’m finally realizing my self-worth, which makes it hard for me to force anything with anyone.

So, you see, being single gives you time to reflect on yourself, realize your flaws, and work on improving yourself. I’m now a much better, more enlightened, grounded, and wiser person than I have ever been before, and I’m only just getting started.

You can flirt with anyone you like at any time you want

I’m not gonna lie. I can be quite a serial flirt if I want to. I mean, I don’t go out much, and I’m an introvert, but I have slid in quite numerous DMs. Sometimes I flirt in the comments. I’ve even flirted with a former colleague of mine. Some of these flirtatious attempts got a response, and some didn’t, but I’m not emotionally attached to anyone I flirt with online. I can get away with all these flirtatious DMs because I’m not seeing anyone.

You know how fun it is to flirt with anyone you like at any time you want without worrying about another person? No one questions you about who you’ve been with. Honestly, if there’s one thing I despise the most in a relationship, it is constantly explaining myself and my every move to someone, which is why someday I’d like to be in a relationship with someone who has a life of her own outside our relationship and is not insecure. I’m saying this because I know I’m not the cheating type, and I’m loyal.

You don’t report to anyone

Like I said, when you’re single, you’re free to talk to, flirt, DM, and even hang out with anyone you like without having to report to anyone. Let’s face it. Relationships are hard work, and they require consistent commitment, loyalty, and trust, which means you don’t get to do whatever you like, whenever you want, and with whoever you want because you have to think of the other person and consider their feelings before making a choice about whatever it is that you want to do. Agreed?

As a single person, you don’t have to do this, and that’s highly liberating, at least for me.

You feel liberated

If you’re a person who enjoys their own company, like myself, you’re more comfortable being single than being in a relationship. You get to prioritize yourself and do whatever makes you happy without having to explain yourself to anyone.

I’m the type of person who finds solace in taking himself out for lunch, shopping, movies, bookstore, music store, and I love taking solo walks to the beach not to swim, but to regroup and recharge, get my face kissed by the sea breeze, and smell the soil from the ocean. This is the place where I get in touch with myself and God’s creation and feel at most liberated.

I have spent the past 3 years or so searching for myself and trying to figure things out for myself. It was during my path to self-discovery that I found my way to Medium, including my interest in reading, writing, and copywriting.

I have other commitments, such as my job, my studies which are currently on hold, and providing financial support for my family, including working my ass off towards achieving my goals. I’ve got no baby momma drama and no relationship commitment which make it easier for me to find balance. In fact, you can say I’m currently stress-free.

You find balance

If you’ve been single for as long as I have, you’d know how more manageable life is when you’re single, unless you’re a single mom or dad. It’s easier when you’ve only got your needs to prioritize compared to adding another person to your bag of priorities and commitments.

I’m currently not looking to add to my own bag, but I’m also not against it, should the right person show up and fit the size of my bag.


Now, this was in no way a diss article against people in relationships. Like I said at the beginning, love is a beautiful thing, but so is being single and there are 5 reasons why that is the case.

What I’ve discussed here are my whys. What is your why? Let me know in the comments, and don’t forget to follow and subscribe if you love my stories.



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Lindo Shandu

Lindo Shandu


Top Writer in Psychology. Turning ordinary topics namely self-help, personal growth, mental health, psychology, spirituality, love & relationships upside down.