Accept These Differences and Solve 90% of Your Relationship Problems
A brief insights
Men and women are different! The things that are relevant to one gender may or may not hold that much importance to another. We as a society have improved a lot in terms of gender equality and have become each other’s companions in almost all aspects of Life. But no matter how much we try to make everything alike, there will always be some differences in our behaviors. Mother nature has made men and women slightly different and that difference is purely biological and behavioral.
Our behaviour may be a thing we crafted by our own experience but you cannot deny that most of it was a part of our tendencies that took millions of years of developmental process and that cannot be changed overnight. Those differences are responsible for our better survival during tough days and nights and are backed by the roles we’ve played for years. In terms of rights and capabilities, no gender is superior or inferior to another.
Equality for equal opportunity is not only useful but needed for freedom, both genders are equally deserving individuals, and equality for emotional vulnerability and expression of opinions is also a thing we deserve.
The remaining percentage of difference is what causes most of the conflicts we face while dealing with the opposite gender. If we stop trying to make others fit in our mold and try to be a bit compatible with each other, we can enjoy the pleasure of being in a state where we both understand each other much better.
Here are some key differences in our behavior:
- Women become afraid when they encounter stressful situations while men become insecure during stressful situations and if the situation continues their insecurity converts into anger.
- Women find their heart’s fulfilment by having a greater number of various emotionally connected relations while men feel fulfilled by having greater freedom and less obligation.
- Women resolve their problems by discussing them with whom they trust while men cope with their problems by seeking solutions and not talking too much about the problem.
- Offering help to women is an act of generosity while offering help to men is doubting their abilities.
- Women need other women as companions to live happily while man needs a woman to be their side to feel happy in their lives.
- Men feel the need for something then they search for resources while women simply keep looking for things they may need to further improve their lives.
- For women, trustworthiness is the most important trait while for men loyalty is everything.
- Women usually make jokes to target the weakness of someone to make them improve, while men joke mostly to impress women or to overpower another man.
- Women need everything to be organised while men need everything to be found with ease.
- Men feel comfortable when they have everything under control while women feel comfortable when they have someone who takes responsibility for everything.
These traits may vary with different individuals but these are some fundamental behavioral patterns that separate men and women by their way of responding to different situations.
No matter how many times you fight to make your spouse the way you are, they’ll start to follow the subconscious traits that they’ve had from birth. Acknowledging this would make you handle conflict and various situations easily. You may get offended by some of these points but that’s what they are, Denial doesn’t change the fact that we do have certain differences in our behavior and tendencies. Acknowledging it and responding with compassion by unconditional acceptance and support to deal with differences, will solve nearly all problems one has in a relationship.
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