Why It's Hard to Fall In Love These Days

A lost generation

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There are so many great things we have with us these days, our lives have changed drastically in a few decades, and we have the latest technologies in our hands and have access to deeper insights into various aspects of life. This advancement was expected to make our lives easier but in reality, we got screwed over the very fundamental needs of human existence.

A genuine friendship and a loving partner

There are a lot of reasons that reduced our ability to acknowledge and build a genuine relationship, the list of responsible factors is very long, here however we’ll discuss the most common and obvious reasons for the problem.

1. People have different dating preferences: Long before when dating was supposed to be a phase before marriage and both parties were equally aware of the fact that they were dating to find a life partner for them. These days however we have different dating preferences, some want casual hookups while others are looking for a travel companion. Such attitude made dating hard for those who are looking for an authentic relationship.
2. People have high expectations: Thanks to all those couple goals scripted reels that had given us very high expectations of how a happy couple is supposed to be which made us lose the sense of reality. We not only have high expectations but this attitude makes us unable to appreciate a genuine relationship.
3. We don't compromise: People are now taking even necessary cooperation as oppression, humans are sovereign entities, and when they are made to be together compromise and cooperation are inevitable; you simply cannot avoid it. If you’ve found someone with whom you don't need to compromise, the chances are high that the other person is faking a relationship with you.
4. We prefer instant gratification over long-term fulfillment: A person who is so obsessed with finding a perfect partner will eventually fall into the trap of choosing the partner for his greed or for the social attention that comes with dating a so-called perfect partner.
5. People are quite unreasonable when selecting a partner: It’s like they cannot survive a weekend without a double cheeseburger, but they want a partner who has a perfect figure and presentable personality; all credit goes to social media which made us obsessed over such physiques.

If you want to have a relationship that is genuine in this era, you’ll have to give up all those expectations that make a person suffocated in your presence, at the same time if someone prefers to chase an ideal image of a partner over being on the ground of reality, he or she isn't relating with you but their dreams, you better avoid them.

“True love does not come by finding the perfect person, true love comes by learning to see an imperfect person, perfectly.” -Jason Jordon

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