How to Remove Emotional Blocks — a Beginner’s Guide

Konrad Obidoski
Sep 7, 2018 · 5 min read

You could say that emotional blocks are the reason we are here, in this life.

Being stuck, recurring challenges, painful memories… those are all opportunities to finally learn a lesson.

And the lesson is always the same: you can choose happiness over pain.

Be warned — letting go of the above is a journey for a lifetime. Or a couple.

So, let’s make it as joyful and as easy as possible on us. We are all in this together.

The Basis — a Perspective That WORKS

One thing that separates those who struggle & those who remove emotional blocks, it is perspective.

A perspective that works.

We are brought up in a world where “we must succeed” and “fight for what ours”.

But if you (only for a moment) assume that the world is benign?

That your hardship happened FOR YOU. For a reason. To give you a lesson.

A lesson needed for you to choose what will actually make you deeply happy.

Assuming that gives you the courage to continue with letting go of blocks.

If your perspective says that each “block” is an obstacle to a good life, you are choosing a lifetime of struggle.

Get accustomed to this all-happens-FOR-ME, not TO-ME perspective. Come back to it whenever you feel overwhelmed.

With practice, even the most “difficult” challenges become adventures instead.

You Have Only Free Choice

The second point to understand is that there are no “blocks”.

There is nothing stopping us from dropping the negative emotions.

There is nothing stopping us from choosing what makes us happy.

But what is there, is our reluctance to FACE the emotions. We repress and suppress them until they violently burst out — which only entrenches them deeper.

This reluctance is manifested as a feeling of stuckness & lack of free choice.

(not so)

We push them out of our awareness and then pretend they are not there. Or that we need “a magic key” that we don’t have to finally see them.

(not so)

What we DO need is the courage to look allow ourselves to feel them, without reacting.

Stay with our emotions until they “experience themselves out”. Like steam from a pressure cooker.

There are no “magic keys” — you have everything you need to remove blocks

Do you believe there is a key that, when found, will allow your difficult emotions to burst out & never come back?

“I need to remember that repressed memory”

“I should have had that conversation with my mom before she died”

“I shouldn’t judge/feel that way/be angry/be sad/etc.”

“I must be strong/do this for my family/children/etc.”

“I heard about this emotional release technique and I am sure this is the only one that will work for me”

“I am afraid/angry/sad and that’s just the way it is

Okay.

You don’t HAVE TO do anything to get free from emotional blocks.

You don’t NEED a specific technique, use any that you resonate with.

You already HAVE the feelings. No need to judge them.

You CAN become free of all your anger, grief, fear, craving, pride, guilt, shame, apathy.

It takes some practice but it is something we all can do.

So, (finally!) here is what you actually do.

The Actual Technique of Removing Emotional Blocks

Now, what do I do to remove blocks?

Emotions are what we call the “energetic body” and they manifest in your physical body. So, an entry technique is getting to know your body a little.

Get in touch with it:

1. Sit down in a quiet space where nobody will disturb you for 10–20 minutes.

2. Feel your toes. Then your feet, then calves, ties, etc, until you get to the top of your head.

3. Be relaxed and notice where you feel unease: constriction, heaviness, pain, pulsing, etc.

That’s it.

You can stay in the spot until you feel a change or “scan” your entire body before coming back there.

Don’t be afraid of the sensations. After all — you are not experiencing “fear”. It’s throat dryness, weak legs, butterflies in your stomach.

IT IS JUST A SENSATION, not a reason to be anxious about life.

The points in which you might feel the most intense sensations.

Your mind might create thoughts like:

“there is pain there, it’s definitely my arthritis!”,

“I must pick up my laundry”,

“This is stupid / not for me / doesn’t work”.

That’s fine.

You don’t have to run away from your thoughts or have a silent mind.

The whole point is to focus on the sensation in the body, give it more attention than your thoughts.

“I must not think” vs. “I don’t have to think”

Feel the difference?

You Have to Experience It to Get It

With the above technique, you have all the tools you need to undermine the “blocks”.

But, it’s like meditation or parenting. Everybody can explain to you how it looks like but you must actually DO IT to GET IT.

So, try it. Only as long as it takes for you to feel a change in the sensation. Even if for 1 minute.

Don’t expect bursts of emotion. Again, it’s like letting steam off the pressure cooker — not like having it explode.

It’s silent. It’s soft. It’s internal.

But after a time you catch yourself:

“Hey, I am not angry anymore”

“Wow, I didn’t freak out here”

“I can talk to my mom without wanting to jump out of the window”

You are that much lighter and liberated.

And it starts by removing the “blocks” — hard, visible, tangible, negative emotions.

Depending on how helpful this is, I will share more approaches, so you can choose what is best for you.

So, thank you for making this world a freer, more intentional & loving place. Thank you for caring about you. Thank you for choosing happiness over pain.

Enjoy the Autumn, the season of letting go.

What would Love do?

We believe the one power human beings have is the power of choice. In a world we see, Mankind has chosen to wake up.

Konrad Obidoski

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What would Love do?

We believe the one power human beings have is the power of choice. In a world we see, Mankind has chosen to wake up.

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