while(self++) { #46 } // Dating With Wool Over Our Eyes
When we date, we sometimes turn a blind eye to the things our partners do that annoy us. It could be because it’s early on in a relationship, or because we really like them for other reasons, or because there’s “never a good time” to bring it up. But those things still bug us. I’ve also been told that when you get into a defined long term relationship, such as marriage, those peeves start to get on your nerves all the more. I’ve come to think that one of the ways to find what someone is truly like is to live with them for a few years. If it’s mutually agreeable and you can tolerate one another — despite differences — then perhaps you’ll have an easier time long term. If not, then it will only blow up later. Perhaps we should trust our instincts in relationships. It’s telling us what we can’t deal with well. But it makes me wonder. Might this indicate an inability to tolerate and get past differences? Might it be our stubbornness talking? What is worth compromising?
