Why do we choose to get married?
If you actually ask people this question, often the responses are quite varied. Some will respond with “for love” and others with “because we’re stupid”! Within only two generations our attitudes and opinions have become vastly different from what is considered convention. Personally, for me, it has always been with the focus of united love (corny I know, but stick with me).
Regardless of what your innate belief is, I’m sure you would agree that it certainly shouldn’t be for obligation, acceptance or timing. For those of us who are fortunate enough to be able to make the choice for ourselves, I feel that having this opportunity should be considered a privilege. One that comes with the same appreciation you share for your partner everyday.
It should be symbolic of how your relationship looks in black and white.
If you’re a couple who lives loud, proud and adventurous then why not create a wedding that represents all of these elements. Perhaps you both appreciate tradition, history and romance which is equally as important to celebrate. The core factor here is not being led away from your everyday pillars because of the opinion of others or your own doubts. If we choose to get married, then we should have the right to choose the event, environment and format that is our own.
We can make it adventurous, private, public, large, small, indoors, outdoors, affordable, expensive etc, etc. However, by remaining true to each other it should create the mindset that makes it fun, memorable and ultimately appreciative for the opportunity.
So many wonderful people in our community have fought long and hard for the right to acknowledge their love in public and on paper. In standing alongside these people and making the same commitment then we owe it to ourselves to do so with authenticity and gratitude. I would also like to say that in my opinion, if getting married isn’t for you then no one has the right to view you any differently either.
If you share a life with someone that’s worth celebrating everyday then what could be more amazing. With or without a ring!
Life is short, but it’s certainly not short of opinions. 10 years from now when you look back on your wedding it’s my truest wish that you are reminded of a day that makes you smile and cry, because it was lived with your full flavour. The one that makes your journey together unique and ensures your enduring love for one another everyday. If you decide to make this leap, then do it with complete commitment to ensure you fully appreciate the moment when you land.
