So this popped across my twitter feed a few minutes ago. Take a second to read it, then come back.
You done? Okay good. Let’s talk about it.
I’m not mad at her, and I’m not going to mock her. Speaking as a Christian, I admire her enthusiasm for God & the way she looks at things through a Christianity filtered lens. It’s just… She’s off.
First of all, Girls Trip is R-rated. Right off the bat, you know it’s not the type of film you can sit at home & watch with the whole family; grandparents, parents, and kids. It’s a film with adult content. The R means restricted, which is why there’s an age limit to see films that carry that rating. The R-Rating is also a “hey, this might offend some” neon sign, so you know to stay away if you’re one of those that would potentially be offended.
By far, the biggest gripe I have with her review is that she seems to equate something happening in the film to the filmmakers (and audience by extension) giving it a seal of approval. Come on. I cheered on Sunday during the Game of Thrones finale when Lord Baelish was killed, as I’m sure many others did, so does that mean that we approve of murder? That’s ridiculous. The fact that Regina Hall’s character gets a divorce at the end isn’t a “GO GET DIVORCED!!!” billboard, it’s just what you’d expect of a successful woman whose husband was persistently unfaithful, humiliated her publicly constantly, had a baby on the way with another woman, and was unwilling to change. It’s not “making divorce out to be a good thing” as she put it. She also mentioned being dismayed at how “crass behavior…was seen as entertainment” & at this point, I want to ask what kinds of films she’s been watching, because… duh? Violence is seen as entertainment. When we watched Rambo shoot a million people as kids, it was entertaining. When Kevin McAllister terrorized two grown men over Christmas TWICE, it was entertaining. I think Breaking Bad is the best TV show of all time, and it was certainly entertaining, but it doesn’t mean I want to go out & become a meth dealer or murder my enemies while building a drug empire. It just means I recognize great art. She has to be able to separate the two.
There’s something I’ve said to my friends a million times, and I’ll say it again here: We can’t keep getting mad at non-Christians when they don’t live by Christian standards. Should we want them to? Sure. Should we hope they do? Absolutely. Should we expect it of them though? I’m not sure… So it’s ridiculous that she got mad at “the revealing and sexually provocative clothes the women had on” or the friends cursing each other out even though the bible says not to use foul/abusive language. It’s almost funny, because this film wasn’t produced by Benny Hinn Pictures, directed by TD Jakes, or even marketed by Christ Embassy Films Inc. Nobody associated with the film is pretending to be a Christian, so why are you upset that the characters are acting the way similar people in real life probably would? The overriding question I want to ask her is, “what did you expect?” Films have to be real. The bad language, the abusive language, the strained friendships, that’s real life. It’s not pretty, yes. But it’s real life.
Finally, I think the biggest thing that offended her was this. The scene where the characters are about to go out & have a wild night, and they “pray” beforehand being silly, asking for protection from STDs & kidney failures because they planned to drink and… you know… stuff. While I can kiiiiiiiinda see how a Christian would find that offensive, I’m gonna go out on a limb here & say that *shouldn’t* even be offensive, because there’s no pretense about the film that the people praying are Christians. They aren’t believers asking for permission in advance to misbehave, they’re just four silly friends being silly.
It ultimately boils down to three things:
- 1: She knew what to expect going in.
- 2: It’s. Just. A. Film.
- 3: Things that happen in said film are not endorsements of concurrent activities in real life.
If she can’t separate fiction from reality, she may want to stay away from any non-Christian films (or tv series, or books, or music) in the future.
For the record, I did see Girls Trip a few weeks ago. And I haaaaated it. But I didn’t hate it because someone got divorced or because the lead characters wore skimpy outfits, or even because they used foul language. I knew going into it that I was to expect all that, and I still chose to go see it. No, I hated Girls Trip because it was marketed as a comedy, and I didn’t laugh out loud once. That’s all. I hated it because I didn’t find it funny, I just found it bleh.