Orgasmic Emotional Release
How intense feelings can surface at the most surprising times…
When I was in massage school many moons ago, we were taught there was a possibility a client could have an emotional release during their session. We were told any number of things could happen: from outbursts of laughing, crying, body tremors, etc.
One thing I did not agree with at school in the so-called “rules and regulations” of a “professional massage” was the fact that there was a large chunk of the body left untouched. We are taught that any manner of touch that could be construed as sexual is considered taboo during a massage in western society.
I think we are sadly remiss in neglecting this oh-so-important aspect of healing. Now, granted, I would not say this is necessary in some, maybe even most, therapeutic massages, but I can very much attest to the fact that sensual touch — and an orgasmic release — can and has been shown to be a vital part of healing for some.
It is my great hope, and even my mission, to try and sway general society’s opinion of sexual healing.
Let me give a personal example. Recently, I was in the shower… massaging MYSELF… yes, masturbating. I only recently discovered the joyful pleasures of a hand-held shower head! (Where has this been all my life??? My goodness!!) After my orgasmic release, I found myself having a release of another kind. I began sobbing! And it was over nothing in particular. At least, that I could consciously pinpoint.
After releasing this apparently pent-up emotional “congestion”, and then thinking about it for awhile, I concluded that I must have just simply needed to let go of some extra emotional crap.
There is certainly something very real about the somato-emotional response. That is, mind-body connections, wherein emotions and/or traumas can get stored in the body’s cells. When these particular tissues get stimulated, whether in a therapeutic massage, or sexual stimulation, or even simply stretching — they are sometimes released. That is the hope, anyway! We need to move this shit. There needs to be more of this happening in the world, in my opinion.
We can create this experience for ourselves during sex (whether with a partner, or alone) by simply setting the intention to release stuck emotions, and by being very conscious during pleasuring. One must really focus on tuning into the body… taking time to hone in on every sensation, trying to pay sole attention to what is occurring in the body, quieting the rambling mind, and blocking the rest of the world out for awhile.
I hope you get a chance to try this soon. After my orgasm and emotional release that morning, I felt like a million bucks! And I had not even been aware that I’d been holding some stuff in. If you have any questions about this process, feel free to email me at bahasherri@yahoo.com.
“The mind and the body are like parallel universes. Anything that happens in the mental universe must leave tracks in the physical one.” ~Deepak Chopra
