Is He The One?

6 unmistakable signs you found the love of your life.

Colleen Murphy
Sep 22, 2020 · 4 min read
Photo by Everton Vila on Unsplash

People love to say when you meet the one you will just know.

But will you?

The beginning is all butterflies and anticipation…and you really feel like it is the real thing. And then the initial attraction fades into the crushing realization that the reality of your relationship doesn’t quite match up.

If you find yourself in that moment where you are wondering if you are in or out…

“…that is probably a bad sign in itself.”

It is the moment you let your guard down, when you don’t feel pretty or perfect or right. But you find there is this amazing person sitting next to you talking it through and loving you.

“…he should get you.”

“…you shouldn’t feel judged.”

The truth is, healthy relationships far outlast the butterflies. They grow. They change you. Maybe you are softer than you have ever been before. Maybe you feel stronger. Your power becomes authentic as your confidence expands.

Great relationships are the medium in which we become an even better version of ourselves. So how will you know?

#1 “Real love will give you your freedom.”

#2 “You will feel alive”

#3 “No one plays games”

#4 “He is your best friend”

#5 “And the sex…”

#6 “Your values align.”

When your values align, you move in the same direction with ease. It feels so good to make decisions and move forward because you both want it.

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.”

-Elizabeth Gilbert

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Colleen Murphy

Written by

Writing about the beautiful journey of life and love. We are all figuring this out together

Wholistique

Personal stories on health, relationships, and a holistic approach to happiness. Wholistique is about Growth not Change. We DO NOT want to fix You because You are not broken. We want to shift your perception of reality and to empower you with the proper tools to navigate life.

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