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The Lies I Tell Myself to Avoid Change
Can you relate?
Change freaks me out.
It’s ironic, considering how often I want the change.
I daydream about it all the time — moving to a new place, travelling more, being less stuck in my head.
But when it’s time to finally do something, I freeze. Or worse, I come up with excuses that keep me safe.
But it’s all a lie. Those excuses keep me small.
Let me tell you what they sound like. Maybe you’ll recognize them, too.
“I’m Not Ready Yet”
This one is my go-to.
I still believe I’ll wake up and know I’m ready.
That magical combination of confidence, clarity, and a perfect plan will materialize at my doorstep.
But you know, and I know, this day is not going to arrive.
Readiness is a moving target. The longer I wait, the further away it seems.
Because no one ever feels fully ready for big life changes. Growth happens when we take the first step, even if we have doubts.
Waiting to feel ready is like waiting for my favourite show to come back after being cancelled. It’s not happening.
