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The Questions That Keep You Stuck
And the ones that set you free
I honestly think most of our (avoidable) suffering comes from asking the wrong questions.
Let’s take my friend, for example.
Last year, she went through a huge crisis. Her whole life flipped upside down, and one of the biggest pain points was her relationship:
Is he the right guy?
Is there something wrong with me?
Maybe I need to change?
If I break up with him, will I ever find a mate?
I’ve been through a similar process, so I could totally relate.
I was in a relationship that had a lot of love… and a lot of fighting. A lot of unsafety. Every time I reached the end of my rope and just wanted to leave, my partner would say, “We’ve come so far. Surely we’re about to break through this pattern. We just need to hang in a little longer.”
The questions I asked?
What if he is right?
What if I’m chickening out last minute?
What if this is my saboteur speaking?
What if I’m not seeing something?
What if I’m saying NO to love out of fear? (and this was the one and only chance?)
Ah, the agony of that time! So much gut-wrenching pain and confusion. So much instability and…
