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What Intimacy With Oneself Looks Like in Daily Life
Cultivating Inner Safety for living the life you were born to live
Last week, I wrote about the Energetics of Inner Safety and how true safety begins with intimacy with oneself — a functional, healthy relationship with all parts of you, based on kindness and presence. Some of you asked what that actually looks like in daily life. Here’s my answer.
The ‘Before’ State: Living in Survival
I used to be constantly anxious, always running, out of breath without realizing it. I didn’t know how to truly relax, so I numbed out with watching movies, reading books and being always there for others. I was also utterly addicted to being needed. (How many of you recognise that one?:). I struggled with IBS, exhaustion, and an underlying sense of restlessness.
In short, my Nervous System (NS) was in survival mode — either in collapse or hyperactivity.
The consequences?
I didn’t have deep intimate and nourishing relationships with others. Nor did I know how to make wise attuned decisions which meant that I got myself in some tricky situations over the years. I would say I fucked up royally quite a few times and yes, I saw myself as a big failure for a long time. The…
