5 Grief Blunders This Widow Would Like You To Avoid

But I Will Never Be An Expert

Danell teNyenhuis Black
Widowed Words

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“I’m sorry for your loss.”

“I can’t imagine what you are going through.”

“This sucks.”

Words of comfort—I know I have mentioned that they don’t exist. I know this, but I still struggle to convey comfort when someone is experiencing a loss. For some reason, I feel I should be an expert, but I’m not.

Patrick died just over eight years ago, on 4/20/2016. I didn’t feel like writing about the anniversary this year, so I waited a week. Every year, I see many posts and comments celebrating 4/20. For those of you who don’t know, 420 has become a code word for Marijuana. I tried finding more information, and I found this article on Yahoo and this entry on Wikipedia, among other references.

Over the last eight years, I have been annoyed by this connection since it’s not a day of celebration for me. This year, I finally realized Patrick would think this is hilarious. He didn’t smoMarijuanaana or do any other drugs, but he embraced being different and unique.

I also think he would want an annoying celebration to distract us from the reason we remember 4/20.

This year, I wanted to provide some tips on grief blunders that I frequently see. Death…

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