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Struggles Of A Free Spirited Person

Are you a free spirit?

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Free spirits love adventure, enjoy many hobbies and will always see the beauty in this world, but sometimes there are some unique struggles that only they will understand.

Here are 10 struggles of a free spirted person…

1 — You Sometimes Feel Like You Don’t Quite Fit In.

You naturally befriend people from many different walks of life because of your sociable nature, but you don’t really feel totally 100% at home within one group, which is why you have several circles of friends. You struggle to label yourself as one thing or another and even though you find those that are on the same wavelength as you in some ways, they tend to only go so far, seeing you as a little extreme.

You can see the beauty in everyone, but often you feel they don’t really get you. So you move from group to group, loving everyone for their unique take on life, but not really being fully-understood by anyone.

2 — Being Into Many Things.

You find yourself going from mild interest to absolute fascination within 2 minutes. You throw yourself into any endeavor with all your heart, and if you then decide you don’t like it, you’ll drop it just as fast and find something else. There’s no in-between for free spirits, it’s all or nothing. One thing that you’ll never do is keep on doing something that doesn’t fire you up, not for too long anyway. You’ll find a way to move on so your passion can be re-ignited by your next adventure.

The trouble with this is that some may view you as shallow, having a lack of depth and focus, which doesn’t show you in your best light. The truth is when you do find what you love, you have the ability to take risks and live on the edge in a way that others won’t, so you’re likely to be successful. But it’s finding that passion and sticking with it that can be your undoing. This is one of the reasons why free-spirits often have a multitude of hobbies and interests.

3 — Always Being Slightly Detached, Not Fully Committing.

Free spirits tend to be slightly detached from certain things simply because they know there is so much more still to see in this beautiful world — so many experiences to be had and that back door must be kept open when opportinity or passion calls your name. You’ve learnt not to commit too readily because you know from experience that if this happens you won’t be able to stop yourself following your heart. Some may view this as selfish and uncaring, even though it isn’t true.

4 — Being Romantic — At Times to Your Detriment.

Life to a free spirit is full of magic. Everything from the stars in the night sky to that guy who sells ice cream on the street has a little place in your heart as you have the knack of always seeing the beauty in life, especially in the little things. Sometimes this comes at a cost, however. Often people may see you as a person who has a bad sense of reality, which can be hurtful as much as it can be annoying.

You know that you have bad times too, but somehow that romantic nature of yours always leaves you optimistic. Even when you do hit a roadblock in your life, you appear to navigate through it with a smile on your face and head off into the sunset with your optimism and beautiful smile still in place. This can cause friction with those who just don’t manage to do that, especially those who find it hard to get over something. They insist that you’re just ‘lucky’ and have never had to deal with any difficult challenges before. In some ways this may be true, but not for the reasons they think, but simply because free spirits see all these events as another experience in the adventure of life.

5 — Having To See Meaning In Everything.

To most people this wouldn’t really seem to be a struggle, but I bet it is for you. In order to put your mind to anything, it needs to feel like it has essence — and I know that you know exactly what I mean. Too much reflecting can often leave you at burnout, and you often ponder whether it was worth your time or not when you get sucked back into reality.

6 — You Love to Go Against The Norm.

It’s natural for you to question everything — and didn’t someone say that rules are meant to be broken? A new policy or social trend has to appeal to your free spirited nature first before you’ll agree that it’s a good idea.

Often, this gets you into trouble as you blithely flout the rules and disagree with those who those who seemingly know better than you. This doesn’t endear you to others, especially those in authority or influence of some kind. It also ruffles the feathers of more conventional types who secretly long to just break free, but don’t dare. The only way they can justify their life in chains is to try and shut you down. You, being a free-spirit that you are, believe that blatant conformity to social norms will make you nothing more than a sheep.

7 — You Don’t Tolerate Idiots and Closed-Minds.

Sometimes this can make you look a little impatient, insensitive and uncaring. But the reality is, your free spirit doesn’t have time for stuff-that-doesn’t-matter. Life is short enough as it is, and there is so much more exploring to be done. So rather than enter into any kind of conversation to explain your views about the situation — you’ll just end the conversation abruptly, leaving the other person slightly stunned.

What’s the point in arguing with idiots when you already know it goes nowhere?

8 — Too See Is To Believe.

You are never fully to listen to other’s constant worries about all the bad things that can happen if you do a certain thing. You will always need to test firsthand and experience firsthand whether what they say is true or not.

As a born adventurer, if some idea has taken hold of you r interest— you have to experience it for yourself. This can often make you feel more of an outsider than anything because, there you are off on another adventure, and everybody is questioning your sanity. Take for example, making the leap for it and living on a sailboat— not everyone can appreciate your passion for adventure, as they are often more appalled by the (often negative) practicalities.

9— Free Spirits Crave A Deeper Connection.

Free spirits, for all their love of movement and challenge — want to really know the people in their lives. You crave more than a chat buddy on Facebook, or a one-nighter Tinder date. You want to be intimately aware of what they’re going through, how they feel and challenges or celebrations. In this age of text messages and emoticons, of busyness and fast paced lives, it can leave you feeling disconnected from those around you, pushing you to change your environment yet again, seeking some place where you will fit in and have those deeper connections you long for.

You also come to understand that love is something taken for granted in this superficial world, and often feel like you are the last of your kind who still cherishes its value. You understand and know what you want in an intimate, but at times fear that you might not find the right one.

10— You Are Incredibly Unique, But Uniqueness Can Feel Lonely At Times.

Free spirits often have the most interesting and thrilling lives. They have some of the best and most obscure music, fashion and food tastes. “Mainstream” is a word that you dislike, and often this can leave you feeling lonely, as only a select few can share in your joy for these things. For instance, you absolutely hate going on social media because it is a waste of time and life energy to consume content that doesn’t have a direct impact to you at all, and just leaves you depressed afterwards, but for some reason, its a mainstream poison.

How To Face These Struggles With A Smile?

Remember, the only thing that matters in this life is how well you lived, loved and laughed, and if you feel that your free-spirited nature is a disadvantage think again.

Ask anyone in the world, and it will pretty evident that you are the ideal personality archetype they want to be. What other person has such beaming confidence, thirst for adventure and sense of true beauty (even in the little things) as you?

The key to being a happy free-spirit is to continue following your heart. If you look back at all the fun and exciting adventures you had, or even the not-so pretty ones, you will be confident to say:

“Shit, I’m so glad I actually did that” or maybe “Wow, Its a good thing I took the risk and went for it…”

Remember that your happiness should come from you and not society’s happiness. You shouldn’t change anything in you when you already know you’re having the time of your life. Even if no-one around you sees this world in the same beauty as you, don’t let that spoil your moment. Just live, love, laugh and enjoy this beautiful world.

Notes:

This article is dedicated to a friend. Remember to stay true to who you are, regardless of how much shit the world throws at you.

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