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Why the Hell Do We Self-Sabotage?
I want my hair back more than anything, and I know how to do it. So what the hell is stopping me?
The rage almost overwhelmed me but I suppressed it faster than it had appeared. I had to. At that moment, I had to save myself from my anger and fear and pain. Just six months after my hair regrowth, there I was losing it again. And this time, it wasn’t just the wavy milk chocolate locks on my head, it was every last hair on and in my body. Alopecia universalis is the autoimmune disease that stole my hair and worse, my confidence. And, looking back, as my confidence melted away like a snowman in May, many of my goals vanished along with it. But the weird thing is, I know how to regrow my hair. But for some reason, I’ve been self-sabotaging.
To varying degrees, we all self-destruct our hopes and dreams.
It seems odd when you think about it — and you must think about it to regain control — but some part of us, conscious or subconscious, is trying to punch our future self in the face. As the cliché warns us, you really can be your own worst enemy.
But why are we so keen to destroy our goals?
“Poor me, poor me, pour me a drink.” It’s a reminder that self-pity is a doorway to the extreme self-sabotage of alcoholism relapse.
My goal is to regrow my hair
I’m not just trying to sound stoic, I actually know how to regrow my hair.
I’ve proved this to myself numerous times over the past four years after standing frozen in fear before the mirror. The ‘magic’ is a diet that I call Find Your Triggers. I developed it based on the paleo auto-immune diet, and an anti-fungal diet combined with my own personal experiences. It works every time I’m true to it. And that’s the problem.
I’m not consistently true to it; I’ve been self-sabotaging.
In 2020 I was 100% uncompromising for four months. After just three weeks, fluff had appeared where my eyebrows used to be. Then, one by one, eyelashes crept back. Gradually more fluff sprouted beneath my chin, reaching up and then over my jawline towards…
