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Writing unapologetically from the front lines of womanhood where advocacy, poetry, lived truth, and data expose the systemic violence silence was built to protect.

10 Ways ‘Good Men’ Emotionally Drain Women

11 min readOct 10, 2025

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Because control doesn’t always sound cruel. Sometimes, it sounds like “I care.”

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They call it love, but you feel like their emotional support staff.

You’re managing his moods, decoding his silences, phrasing your truth like it’s a bomb you need to defuse.

He thinks he’s a good man and that’s the trap.

Because the most exhausting men aren’t the loud ones.

They’re the ones who make you do all the emotional labor while calling it connection.

What you’re about to read isn’t about cruelty.

It’s about conditioning: the quiet psychological contracts that keep women managing men’s comfort at the expense of our own.

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1. The Therapist Trap

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Women Hold the Flame
Women Hold the Flame

Published in Women Hold the Flame

Writing unapologetically from the front lines of womanhood where advocacy, poetry, lived truth, and data expose the systemic violence silence was built to protect.

Sara Barrett
Sara Barrett

Written by Sara Barrett

Patriarchy Analyst. I document men. Survivor. Mother. I write for women, our truth, our fire, our resistance. Author. Women Hold the Flame, Sept 2025.

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