Writing unapologetically from the front lines of womanhood where advocacy, poetry, lived truth, and data expose the systemic violence silence was built to protect.
For decades, women have been told a dangerous myth:
that men “just lose control” when they’re violent, as if harm were a sudden accident instead of a calculated choice.
But from psychology, survivor testimony, and the Violence Against Women Act now align to say what victims have always known that abuse is not about anger. It’s about control.
Every slammed door,
every raised voice ,
every tearful apology
that resets the cycle
follows a pattern
experts can map
and courts can prosecute.
This piece pulls the curtain back on what “losing control” really looks like.
It breaks down the recognizable stages of coercive control and the kind of patterns women live through in private every day.
Writing unapologetically from the front lines of womanhood where advocacy, poetry, lived truth, and data expose the systemic violence silence was built to protect.
