10 Mantras to strengthen your leadership

Kathy Archer
Nov 9, 2019 · 5 min read

Rock that upcoming meeting by managing your thoughts

Meetings can be a hotbed of triggers, emotions and expectations. They can also be a breeding ground for toxic relationships and teams. As the tension rises, people’s patience decreases. Instead of working together, people become pitted against each other as they stake claim to their ideas, their pitch and the outcome they think is right.

Strong Emotional Intelligence is the key to effective leadership

Leaders who don’t just get through meetings, but excel at having meetings go well, have strong emotional intelligence (EI). Too often, leaders get triggered and react to what’s going on in a meeting. Instead, you need to manage your thoughts, emotions and behaviour and respond rather than react. Leaders with high EI respond with intention and are thus confident and composure. As such, they are able to influence the vibe of the meeting positively. This positive impact leads to stronger team relationships.

Access your inner wisdom

Managing your thoughts, feelings and behaviour isn’t as easy as it sounds. To help you use, use the Inner Guidance Cycle framework from Mastering Confidence: Discover your leadership potential by awakening your inner guidance system.


Before going into the meeting, PAUSE and reset yourself. A couple of deep breaths, a moment to get grounded and making sure you’ve had something healthy to eat will put you in the right physical state and frame of mind.


Take a moment to tune into your thoughts, feelings and body sensations before going into the meeting. PONDER while reflecting on this question: What am I bracing myself for? This preparation will help you identify potential triggers and hot spots.


Knowing what you might react to, plan for potential triggers helps you to PIVOT from bracing yourself for the worst to planning for the best. It’s time to prepare some of your responses, and choose the mood you want to bring.


PROCEED into the meeting knowing you are in control, prepared and willing to be courageous to deal with the agenda.

Then, when things don’t go as planned…

Please be aware that just because you’ve done all of that work, doesn’t mean things will go smoothly. The truth is, you will still be triggered, questioned, put on the spot and pushed to defend your decisions and the direction you give. The following mantras can help you maintain your calm, cool composure keeping you in control of your thoughts, emotions and actions.

I’ve got this

One step at a time

I’m learning and growing

This is an opportunity for practice

It’s ok to fail

When I know better, I do better

That was then, this is now

It’s ok to be me

I’m not alone


Your inner dialogue is key to feeling confident and composed. Practice saying these mantra’s in your head during tough meetings, conversations and difficult times. They’ll help you lead with your sanity intact!

Confident Women Leaders

Supporting women leaders in nonprofit organizations to lead with competence, confidence and composure.

Kathy Archer

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Helping women leaders make it in the nonprofit world. Leadership Development Coach * Best-Selling Author * Wife * Mom * Grandma * Mom to one boxer named Zeus!

Confident Women Leaders

Supporting women leaders in nonprofit organizations to lead with competence, confidence and composure.

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