What If You’re In The Right Place
“I’m moving back home,” she says. Deflated.
Her dreams to make it in the big city aren’t going the way she hoped.
She feels deflated. This isn’t how it was supposed to work out. It was supposed to be… easier.
She sees her friends and colleagues online: the perfect careers, bodies, homes, cars and relationships. She feels the opposite: imperfect, flawed and not wealthy by a long stretch. “So this is what they mean by throwing in the towel.” she muses.
I tell her I’ve been there and share her a story…
When I was 30, I had to move back home. I felt deflated and like a royal loser. What could be worse than being a grown ass adult living with your parents? Answer: nothing. Life hadn’t worked out the way I had planned by a long shot.
Four months into my tragic regression back home, I decided to quit drinking. It seemed like it might be a good life decision. I had no DUIs, but a lot of misery.
Four months after that, I decided to start working on my relationship with my parents. If I had to be stuck in a house with these crazy people, I might as well learn to get a long with them. I tried to be a better daughter, to listen more, to be more helpful and to show up more.
One month after that, my father dropped dead of a heart attack one day after his 59th birthday. My entire world was changed. It took me a few months to realize it… but one day it dawned on me:
Oh. My. Gosh. Moving home at 30, allowed me to be with my father for the last nine months of his life. It wasn’t a failure, it was the miraculous hand of providence and fate doing for me what I could not do for myself.
It’s easy in this day and age to judge our insides by other people’s outsides. It’s easy to assume that over there is going to be the answer to all the trouble right here. However, sometimes you learn that right here is exactly where you need to be.
Maybe before you impact the world on a big stage, you’re needed to impact your community. What if right here is exactly where you’re supposed to be? What if your perceived failure is actually the foundation to what will become your greatest success?