WonderBite
Published in

WonderBite

Live Life Slowly; Newsletter #10

4 Little Wonder Bites 💭

🎧 Current Podcast; Do What You Want To Do! — Know What I’m Saying?

Around 3 weeks ago, me and thousands of others finished the PROJECT50 challenge. Its a life-changing challenge headed by State Of Mind, an incredible clothing and wellbeing brand. The challenge itself is headed by two main guys, Ben and Nico, yet Mark Rupp also took part, which lead me to finding his podcast! In this episode, him and his co-host Connor Campbell talk about overcoming fears, finding passions, and doing exactly what you want to do in life.

Many people have brilliant ideas, ideas that could sky rocket their business or company, and their happiness. Yet, it’s often that some of those people don’t make progress with their ideas, as they are held back by a fear of failure. Or, the fear of being laughed at and ridiculed. They dont move forward with any ideas as they’re scared of things not going to plan, and in turn, being laughed at and being called a failure.

Mark and Connor outline this as a major issue that stands in front of people doing what they want to do, yet they both believe that failure is one of the biggest learning points. They believe that without failure and without taking that first step, you won’t grow. Why?

Because failure forces you to take a risk. It forces you to put your work out into the world. You’re taking a risk by communicating and sharing your ideas. Within this, there’s the possibility of failure. Yet, if you don’t do take any of those actions , there’s no risk of failure. This is why so many stay in their comfort zones and dont excel. If you want to move forward and truly do what you want to do, you have to run at life and take that risk.

When you run at life, taking this risk, you also guarantee yourself an opportunity of growth. Inside each and every failure, there is something to be learnt. When your proposals are rejected, or you dont pass an exam, you have the chance to find out why. You can analyse what you did as preparation, and find out what could be improved and altered. You are forced to rethink your approach, for your desired outcome hasn’t occurred. This act of rethinking and altering is growth, and you can bounce back with a better approach and better ideas! In turn, getting closer to doing what you want to do.

To be able to truly do what you want to do, you have to take the risk of failure. You have to step out and know that what you’re doing may not work out. And if it doesn’t, appreciate that, for it is a chance to reflect and grow.

📖 Current Read; 4 Lessons from Einstein on Getting the Most Out Of a Work Day — Katie E. Lawrence on Medium

During his influential career, the scientist Albert Einstein didn’t have a great thought for money. His major priority was studying and working on the things he loved, accompanied by a stable career. Emilie Wapnick defines it as this: “The Einstein Approach is having one full-time job or business that fully supports you, while leaving you with enough time and energy to pursue your other passions on the side.”

There are 4 main lessons that the author took from this approach to life. Yet, I will focus on the 2 that are most important to me. Those are:

  1. Not everything in your life has to make money.

Many people in today’s society are extremely caught up with making money. They spend 40 hours each week sitting at their desk in an office, doing a job that they might not enjoy, just so the bills are paid. This type of lifestyle sounds extremely uncomfortable, and it is for many. Not just uncomfortable, but sometimes stressful and agonising. Being so caught up within this lifestyle has resulted in many of us losing touch with hobbies and joyful activities.

With the notion that everything has to make money, we miss out on joyful experiences with friends, family and ourselves, simply because they dont make money and are ‘a waste of time’

Einstein realised that this wasn’t a way he wanted to live. He wanted to have fun, release stress, and have other things to fall back on that are not his daily job. He made sure to incorporate things into his daily life that didn’t relate to money.

He opted to grow himself via hobbies and experiences, not just his daily job.

  1. Live life slowly, when you can

There are hundreds of factors that contribute to the undeniable rapid growth that we as a species are undertaking. In regards to population, intelligence and technology, we are growing and evolving. These advancements have benefits, yet they also have drawbacks. It is common to find that we are living our everyday lives at an incredibly fast pace, without time to rest and reflect. We are often in such a rush that we forget to slow down, consolidate and simply think.

Einstein didn’t want his life to be so fast paced that he lost track of the days and fell victim to stress and worry, he valued the practice of slowing down. As a teacher at Princeton, he saw a great opportunity to incorporate slowing down. Einstein would walk to Princeton when he was teaching there and be moving at such a slow pace that he was willing and ready to be interrupted by just about anyone. This willingness would encourage others to come up and talk to him, which gave him an opportunity to learn through conversation. He would also take time to smell the roses, literally, along the way to Princeton, letting him appreciate nature and stay grounded. Slowing down enabled him, and enables us, to think. We can reflect, we can look at our emotions, and we can be.

Einstein, during his daily life, appreciated the fact that not everything has to relate to money, that we can have fun and take up hobbies, and that not everything has to be so fast paced. We can take a minute and be still.

Idea of the Week 💭

3 Steps to Learning A Skill in Half The Time

This idea was spoke about during a podcast episode released by The School Of Greatness, featuring Thomas Frank. Lewis Howes, the host, had asked Thomas how he thinks one should go about learning a skill in half the time. Here are his 3 steps:

  1. Gear Acquisition

During this first phase, the priority is getting everything you will need for the learning process. You go out and get the essential items that will make the process easier and accessible. For example, if you want to learn how to mountain bike, you’ll need a helmet, some lights, a bike, and a safe mountain to ride on, etc. The benefits of this are that you’ll be prepared when you go out and take action.

2. Conceptual Learning

During this second phase, your focus is spending time truly understanding what you will be learning. This is when you see the content for the first time, and you won’t have all the grips on it just yet. Going back to the mountain biking example, to follow this stage, you may read articles written by mountain bikers and watch videos that teach you skills. You immerse yourself in what you will learn, so you can build and solidify knowledge.

In this phase, it is important to note that you’re not actually doing the skill yet. You’re just getting that first exposure, and trying to understand what it is that you will go on to do.

3. Deliberate Practice

This third stage may be the most important of all the 3 stages. This is the time when you get up and have a go at learning the skill. Accompanied by the gear acquired and the knowledge built from watching others, you are now in the steering wheel. Your focus here is to truly take action and give the skill a shot.

To return, once again, to the mountain biking example, this is the time where you bring your bike to the top of the mountain, and you ride down. You ride down and attempt any skill that you have focused on in stage 2. You have the gear, you have the exposure, now, you are doing it.

The benefits of this stage are that you are forced into a situation where you have to use what you have learnt during conceptual understanding. You are propelled to actually take action and do the scary part. This is intense, for you’re not just observing, you’re trying and doing.

With these 3 stages, and lots and lots of failure and mistakes, you will begin to master a skill.

✍🏻 Tweet of the Week

“What happens if I fail?”

What happens if you don’t even try?

It is becoming uncommon for me to feature any other Twitter user than @FitFounder within these newsletters! This tweet from Dan Go links into the idea mentioned by Mark and Connor during their podcast.

The fear of failure is quite often the very thing that hinders progress. Many dont take action, as they struggle to see the benefits of failure and its learning points. They only see failure as some big, bad, scary monster. And in turn, they miss opportunities.

Asides from the previously stated benefits of failure, there is also another hand. If the benefits of failure can’t convince you to take action, it helps to think about the cons of NOT taking action.

There is a great different between failing because you are trying something new, and failing because you are not showing up for yourself and putting the work in.

If you don’t take that first step and put your work into the world, you’ll likely miss a great opportunity. A great opportunity to propel yourself, move forward and increase your overall happiness. You may also feel a deep pang of regret, for you wish you had seized the chance.

For me, the life-long pang of regret is much worse than a temporary set back. With regret, you can’t go back and change anything. But with failure, you can! You can learn, reflect, and adapt. Not trying at all has irrefutable and undeniable cons. It keeps you from doing what you want to do.

Ask yourself, ‘if I didn’t try this, would I regret it?’ And if the answer is even a slight yes, go for it, try that thing. Avoiding regret >>> failure.

To end, here’s a question from me! ⚡️

There are still 5 days left in 2021, how can you end it with a bang?

Have a great week!

Sam. 😄

--

--

--

Lifestyle, productivity, goals, challenges.

Recommended from Medium

The Delicate Balance…

The Art of Doing Nothing — Daily Quote

It’s Sunday, therefore I am 100% motivated to do nothing today. Anonymous

Special Evening with Charlotte

Here. Hold My Book. Yes, In Your Hand.

Degree of Revelations

In transit

To speak about success you need to have it | 874

You Were Learning When You Messed Up Your Life

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store
Sam M

Sam M

happiness in all areas of life. student 👨🏻‍🎓. 2 weekly newsletters, daily stoic meditations + occasional articles and book summaries.

More from Medium

THIS. IS. OUR. YEAR.

What the Sun can teach us about how to live life

Self-Esteem for women and girls with Clarissa Burt — Christine Means Business

Remember This Is Your Life