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Win Through Actions; Newsletter #21

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📖 Current Read; The 48 Laws of Power — Robert Greene

Win Through Your Actions, Never Through Argument.

Law 9 of this bestseller by Robert Greene clearly outlines the futility in trying to verbally prove points, and that the real key for persuasion lies in action.

Why Do We Argue?

Many of us, wrongly, try and prove our points through arguments.

We can enter into heated debates, trying so desperately to persuade the person into believing and standing with us.

But why do we argue so avidly?

We argue so that we can display power.

When we argue, we do it to show off how great our ideas are, and how influential our point of view is.

We do it with hopes of persuading the other person or party to stand with us, so that we gain more support and power.

Without the power, our ideas would go to waste. Without the power, we’d have nobody supporting us.

In many cases, this urge for power overrides many other urges. We do not want to be left alone, with no support and deemed a failure. So we are driven to argue and try prove our point.

Arguments are Futile

We go into arguments with the urge to display and demonstrate our power, yet most of the time, an argument has the opposite effect.

Rather than gathering support, arguments can make people loathe you.

You can never be sure that the opposing party actually listens to your words, or actually agrees with what you are saying. You can never be sure that your argument was worth anything, for words are a dime a dozen.

People may appear to agree with you politely, but inside they may resent you.

People may even agree with you for a great while, yet it’s often found that they will return to their old beliefs out of comfort and habit.

You can never truly be sure of the effect your argument has had, leading to its futility.

When you argue, if there’s no clear guarantee of the victory that you desire, you’re simply wasting time and energy!

If arguments never guarantee true victory, what does?

Action

You can win through your action.

Pure action, demonstration and evidence, gives you a much higher shot at victory than anything else does.

You can show the other person exactly what you are capable of. Rather than mindlessly trying to convince them with words, you can offer real evidence through your action.

They’ll have no choice but to believe you then.

When you actively do something that gets the message across, there’s no way that they can avoid it, hide from it or shy away. They will see what you can do.

Action, in all sense, is much more meaningful and powerful than words.

With action, you can guarantee that it’ll have an effect, for there’s no way of avoiding it! Visual evidence is so powerful that someone will be forced to acknowledge it. When it comes to words, nobody needs to acknowledge anything.

When the evidence is present, there’s no opportunity for misconception or misinterpretation, something that comes so often with words.

Making somebody literally and physically feel your meaning is infinitely more powerful than argument.

Commitment

Action also demonstrates commitment.

Many people say that they are going to do something, but when it comes around to doing it, they fall short. They talk and talk, so much that nothing ever gets done!

Yet, when you demonstrate your abilities through action, it shows how truly committed to the cause you are, and nobody can deny you of that.

“The truth is generally seen, rather than heard” — Baltasar Gracian.

Forgo the need to talk and debate, but calmly show somebody what you can do, make them see your meaning.

🎧 Current Podcast; 10 Ways To Get Things Done When You Don’t Feel Like It — Jay Shetty

Step 9; Have Gratitude.

Jay Shetty outlines another way in which we can get things done when we seriously don’t feel like it, and that is to have gratitude.

This idea of gratitude is immensely important in all areas of life, not just productivity and success.

But, what even is gratitude?

Gratitude

Gratitude, coming from the Latin word ‘gratus’, means to feel thankful and appreciative of all that you have.

Gratitude is a recognition of the greatness within you and around you.

Where Do We Go Wrong?

Many of us fall short when we forget to express gratitude.

When life is going just that little bit too fast, and each day is a race to catch up, the sheer business and chaos can cause you to lose touch of what matters most; gratitude.

We lose touch of appreciation and thankfulness.

We lose touch of the true greatness that our life holds, we forget all of the opportunities that we have, all of the amazing experiences that we are a part of.

Losing touch of gratitude, forgetting how great your life truly is, can have extremely negative consequences!

  • You can become demotivated
  • You can become pessimistic
  • You can start to procrastinate
  • Your work, and life, can lose meaning.

Forgetting to express gratitude is a great barrier in long term happiness.

Importance of Gratitude?

General gratitude, long term thankfulness and appreciation for your life is absolutely pivotal in all areas of life!

Gratitude, to begin, can aid you with a sense of happiness.

When you appreciate all that you are and all that you have, you recognise how truly magnificent your very existence is! You recognise how privileged you are to be able to engage in such opportunities, and work on what you enjoy. A reminder of this can bring lots of happiness.

When you’re appreciative for your life, you begin to outline and notice all the true beauty in it.

You begin to see good things here and there, little things you may have missed when lacking gratitude, and that can also aid with happiness!

Secondly, gratitude serves as a reminder.

In busy, day to day life, we can get so caught up in the traffic, in the stress and tension, that we forget to focus on the positives!

Taking time to express appreciation, especially in stressful moments of turmoil, serves as a reminder that you are on the right track, and that everything will work out.

Gratitude and Getting Things Done

For this portion of the podcast, Shetty outlines why having a strong sense of gratitude is so important when it comes to getting hard tasks completed.

What helped the host was remembering those times in his life when the current opportunity was so important, and bringing that gratitude from the past into the present.

Even if the work is challenging now, he focuses on how great it felt to begin with, and the benefits of pushing through. That, even if it might not be so appealing now, he has gratitude for the opportunity regardless.

When you think back to the past, and you recognise that you have achieved what you were working towards, that provides an immense boost of motivation!

When you recognise that the current task you’re working on is something that, in the past, you would’ve dreamed of, aids immensely with getting things done.

When you’re just as grateful for the opportunity as you were in the beginning, it can encourage you to get it done regardless. For you know how wonderful this opportunity is!

Idea of the Week. 💭

Don’t Let Bad Habits Become a Lifestyle.

Why is it that bad habits seem so easily to build, and so hard to curb?

The issue commonly lies in the fact that bad habits are disguised.

Bad habits never begin as bad habits, they disguise themselves as a million other things.

They disguise themselves as excuses, as ‘days off’, as procrastination.

We rarely see a bad habit forming, for it is always disguised as something else.

This is why it is so hard to curb, and why they form so easily.

We don’t recognise that they are forming, so we don’t have the chance to curb them!

When bad habits disguise themselves in this way, we end up unconsciously repeating and repeating them, causing them to form stronger and stronger foundations in our life.

Then, something that started as a harmless excuse can become a negative lifestyle.

We must work on recognising that excuses, bad days and procrastination can easily become a lifestyle.

We must work on uncovering the disguise and seeing the habits as they are.

We are to recognise that these harmless things can easily compound and form stronger habits.

When you know what they are disguised as, you can work on battling with them, so that the small, yet harmful habits do not become a lifestyle.

Quote of the Week. ✍🏻

“If I am a part of the problem, I cannot be a part of the solution.” — Haruki Murakami

To end, here’s a question from me! ⚡️

How can you stop waiting for motivation, and act regardless of whether you feel ready or not?

Thanks for reading!

Sam. 😆

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