The paradox of finding love and connection

Redesigning the online dating experience

Ruth Tupe
Wonderful Behaviors
1 min readApr 7, 2017

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The reason why you don’t reveal your true self is you’re afraid of being rejected. Of being judged. So you portray a shell version of yourself to the world, as protection.

It’s easier to hide or play games, remove emotions out of the equation — to be in control of how others see you.

The paradox is that maybe the things that we hide, or think are weird, might be the very reason why someone might fall in love with you.

I think that’s why online dating is so difficult. Using profiles to describe ourselves is really a disservice to humanity — people can’t be summarized in 5 photos and 128 characters.

My thesis explores ideas around authenticity, human connection, and identity. If you’re interested in learning more about my work, check out my blog!

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Ruth Tupe
Wonderful Behaviors

Addicted to: coffee, period dramas, and making sense of things. Interaction designer, researcher, strategist.