Learning Patience with Hypersensitive Genes
Patience is an art.
People get wealth and brains from inheritance, and I got my nerves from it.
The thought is not a generic statement, but it comes to you like bursting bubbles and certain realizations as you age.
One day, you despise specific actions of your parents during your childhood, only to find yourself mirroring those same traits as an adult.
You think to yourself, “What on earth!”
It is a well-established saying that family is the first school of a child. Yet this school is never scrutinized by anyone unless the kid grows up and points out to them that something is wrong. There could be exceptions if the folks are aware of the term ‘Parenting.’
Yesterday, I was shopping with my husband. I placed my bag beside him and tried on some shirts. Returning happily with a new shirt in hand, I resumed shopping with him. No sooner did I realize my bag was missing?
Here come the bad traits I inherited from my parents: I panicked with a raised heartbeat at the thought of losing my ID, credit card, and other important stuff. I felt the urge to complain about my husband’s irresponsible behavior, but I refrained.
My father often complained about my mother’s actions, large or small, with anger, and she would respond with panic and tears. It seemed inevitable that I would follow suit unless the store manager had kindly set my bag aside and informed my husband as he inquired at the counter.
Like my father, I have enough reasons for this behavior from my side, who also struggled for every single thing in life yet never felt the emotion of “ Content.”
I yearn for that inner peace, even though I fear it may be fleeting, as it is impossible for humans to feel this emotion for a more extended period of time, but I can only wish.
Another trait I aspire to learn is Patience.
Fortunately, I can cultivate it on my own. This sweet emotion prevented me from venting negative thoughts in the store after losing my bag.
I notice my husband and I both exhibit traits inherited from our fathers and mothers. He criticizes things that baffle me, often remarking, “My father’s genes are at work.”
Likewise, I become sensitive and temperamental after hearing nonsense and exclaim, “My father’s genes are at play.” We laugh about it, but mostly, we feel apologetic.
The amalgamation of these inherited traits with our inner efforts shapes our personalities.
It may sound absurd now that, growing up in India, I saw people taking personality development courses before job interviews.
Isn’t one’s personality developed over time through life experiences?, I think now.
I observed my cousin taking personality development classes and admired the improved sense of style and English fluency.
I thought, “All you need is to enroll in a course that transforms you into a successful individual.” However, is this enough for true success in life?
Over the years, I’ve come to the realization that no matter how many personality development courses you take, true personality comes from within, and the skills you acquire are useless unless applied with Patience.
- Patience is required to listen and understand others truly.
- Patience widens your perspective, allowing you to view every situation equally, whether in joy or sorrow.
- Patience enables you to empathize before expressing anger, preserving relationships.
- Patience allows you to find joy in learning from your failures instead of giving up.
- Patience restores your sanity in moments of helplessness.
With all its virtues, Patience is also like Credit, a double-edged sword, which has to be used in an appropriate amount- neither too much nor too little! Change your Patience into perseverance to upgrade your game or stagnate your desires to bring peace.
It’s all up to you.
Sometimes, excessive Patience leads to regret when you realize you waited too long for something and ended up with nothing.
The Bhagwad Gita defines Patience as control of the mind where Shree Krishna says-
Patience is a virtue to be exercised, but not at the cost of life.
That’s why I believe Patience is an art.
Mastering it in harmony with your innate traits can bring greater joy to life.
Namaste! If you delved deep and read till the end, I extend my heartfelt gratitude for venturing into the realm of my overthinking and boundless thoughts. Follow for more Suprenquill ©️
