You stress your weakness

Robert Cornish
Aug 27, 2017 · 2 min read

People tend to dramatize their weaknesses and they’ll often try to do what they aren’t good at because it haunts them.

Their attention gets stuck on it because they so desperately want to handle it.

I did business with this guy years ago and he always talked about “ethics” and was always trying to push ethics on other people and frequently talked about it in a righteous manner.

Later we found out that this guy had transgressions personally with a female colleague and financially in his business.

I’ve come across people who’ve been terrible at certain areas of business and that’s the thing that they consistently get pulled toward and talk about the most.

For me, I’ve always struggled with focus and it’s something I tend to think about and talk about a lot over the years and something I’m constantly working to improve.

My message to you is this, before projecting on others or pointing fingers at others about something you have your attention on, first check yourself to verify that the thing you’re trying to put on others isn’t something that’s actually more intimately affecting you and that you personally have work to do to fix.

Because that’s the thing I’ve noticed; the thing you’re weak on and compelled to get better at, that consumes your attention, you tend to project on others to try to get them to handle when you’re the one that either needs to handle it or move your attention to your strengths and find others who are strong in those areas and can support that side of the company to offset it.

So if you find yourself stressing and projecting on other people a specific thing, take a second to look at yourself. Challenge yourself and say — where I am not doing this? Where am I not strong on this point? How am I weak on this?

Then start there and work to solve that first by either fixing it yourself or finding others who are strong on that thing and have them help support the company so you can focus on your strengths.

It’s important to know where you’re strong and where you’re weak and a clear indicator is the thing that consumes your attention and constantly seems to come up for you, is probably the thing that you’re weak on.

— Robert

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Robert Cornish

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CEO of Richter, an Inc 5000 company (fastest growing companies in America), author of What Works and Host of The Quarter Show http://thequarter.io

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Work / Life is a focused publication for entrepreneurs, startups and businesspeople

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