Resolve These Things so You Can Move Forward
How to Find Your Delightful Passion & Purpose: Work You Love 101 (#14)
Today, I’d like to encourage you to start resolving the big issues in your life.
What are big issues?
They are the sore spots of life, the “itches” one keeps on scratching.
Examples include:
- Being in an unhealthy relationship with someone that one somehow can’t let go off, no matter how hard one tries.
- Bearing a grudge against someone for something that happened decades ago.
- Knowing that there is something one really should be doing differently in one’s life — and continuing with the same behavior.
There’s no ultimate test to tell you if something is a big issue in your life and no outside authority who can determine this for you.
But, thankfully, that’s not necessary.
You are the expert in your life.
If there are currently big unresolved issues in your life, chances are that you already know what those are. Perhaps you can even tell that you’re dealing with a negative pattern that keeps on repeating itself in your life.
And, if you have ever experienced what it’s like to deal with them, you probably also know about…
The impact of big unresolved issues
Long story short, they are distracting. They take up your time and energy. They redirect focus and attention away from your goals.
Often, having major unresolved issues for a long time can also negatively impact one’s self-esteem.
And they will continue to do all these things until they are resolved.
By resolving big issues in your life, you free the energy that was previously trapped by them.
That creative energy is then available to you once again, ready to be applied elsewhere.
With all that being said, let’s move on to…
Taking action
Grab a pen and paper. 📝Then, take a moment to answer the following questions:
- What are 3 ongoing, unresolved issues in your life?
These might include clutter in your house that annoys you every time you walk past it, a self-centered “friend” who drains your energy every time you meet them, guilt you feel over something that happened years ago etc. - Pick one issue that you would like to work on.
For instance, perhaps you feel sad because you haven’t been in touch with a specific family member as much as you like. So, that might be the issue you want to focus on. - Pick one small action you can take to begin improving that issue.
The trick here is to pick a small step. If something has been an ongoing issue in your life for a long time, chances are that you won’t be able to resolve it in a day. And, that’s really okay! Your job is not to be perfect, your job is to make a sincere effort. For instance, if you want to improve your relationship with a family member, a first step may be to give them a short phone call.
The idea
If you find it hard to connect to your passion and purpose, resolve big issues in your life.
Spending time on dealing with those things may seem like a detour to you, but it will make it that much easier to build what you want to build when you’re ready.
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Originally published at https://www.workyoulovecoach.com/resolve-these-things-so-you-can-move-forward on October 1, 2018.
