Adversity Is My Teacher: Lessons from My Breaking Point

My Take in My Adversity

By Agbo Okwudili Paul

In the silence of hardship, when the noise of ambition is drowned by the crashing waves of reality, I have found myself in a space where questions scream louder than answers. This is not just a story—it is my truth. It is the weight I carry, the pressure I face, and the fire I walk through every day, both in business and family. If you are reading this, I am not writing just for the sake of being heard. I am writing to connect, to relate, and to tell someone out there that adversity is not the end of a journey, but the reshaping of it.

My adversity did not come with a warning. It crept in through the backdoor—through failed deals, missed opportunities, delayed payouts, and misunderstood dreams. In my business, Starconnectdots Ltd, I carry the vision of innovation and storytelling. Yet vision alone does not guarantee results. It needs funding, tools, and human support. And when these are scarce, it feels like trying to build a castle with grains of sand. I have written letters, made appeals, pitched my dreams—some answered, most ignored. Still, I stand.

My family has felt the heat too. As a father, the weight of providing when there is barely enough can shatter the spirit. As a husband, watching my partner worry…