Dealing With Break-Ups:
Break-Up is Not What You Think It Is
It all depends on you.
There are many disadvantages to a break-up, but you can turn all of them into advantages. How? Let me tell you:
Loneliness:
After a breakup, despite being surrounded by others, one may feel like the loneliest person on Earth.
No matter how many people you have in your life, even your family may not be able to fill that gap.
However, you can turn this loneliness into an advantage by using it as an opportunity for self-realization. Recognize that your family, friends, and career require your attention more than the lost love.
Instead of grieving over someone who has already left, try to find happiness in the things that surround you.
The Dependency:
Now, there is no one in your life whom you would feel happy to be dependent on. As a result, you might miss spending time with your ex.
However, you can turn this into an advantage because now you are not answerable to anyone, nor are you governed by any person.
Some people live in relationships like slaves. Celebrate your new freedom by doing what they restricted you from doing.
Nothing to Do:
You were involved with them all day long, making new memories every time, both happy and sad. But now, you feel uninvolved, even with yourself.
Celebrate solitude because now, the time is yours, and you have ample opportunities to enjoy your own company.
Start by loving yourself first, then extend that love to the people around you.
Be socially active.
No more drama, no judgmental comments from your partner anymore.
Some Day-to-Day Activities Remind You of Your Ex:
Remembering them makes you break down every time, I know.
Some things around you also remind you of them. This is what would probably never let you move on.
Turn it into an advantage by always keeping yourself engaged in something.
Try spending a lot of time on Medium and reading/writing your heart out, or any other advantageous social media platform, or simply just pick your favourite hobbies now. I don’t think I need to explain why.
Try to get rid of everything around you that reminds you of any happy or sad memories with your ex. Block your ex from everywhere. The no-contact rule has always worked!
Besides all this, there’s something I’d like to share:
Breaking up with someone can feel like you’ve lost half of yourself because the longer you spend together, the more intertwined you become.
One thing that has helped me the most was remembering that the blank space I felt wasn’t emptiness; it was a blank slate that I had to choose to fill.
The more you take from a relationship, the less you’ll feel that you’ve lost. Start by asking yourself what you miss the most, and go get it for yourself.
You have all of the things you need to be happy with you, right here, and right now.
Here are some tips to keep yourself happy after a breakup:
- Make a list of things you liked and disliked about that person. You’ll end up forgiving the person and feeling good about the opportunities in front of you.
- Try to see that person’s point of view and think about the mistakes you made. Probably, they were not all wrong, and you both were at fault. You’d realise it ended for good.
- Avoid binge eating, but do hit the gym; your body needs another source of dopamine.
- Cry, cry and cry. Don’t let your emotions well up inside you.
- Do something you’ve never done before, like going out for a movie alone or taking yourself out for a date — pamper yourself.
- Cut off yourself from social media for some time to rejuvenate; stalking your ex is a big NO.
- Read books and watch TED Talks videos on breakups.
- Lastly, healthy flirting helps a lot. Step into the arena, again!
Always remember, there are 8 billion people on this earth; one day, you will meet the person who is best for you.
On second thoughts, if you still wish to give your partner another chance, read the below blog:
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