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Life Is A Crapshoot — Without This
What Is The Value Of Your One Precious Life?
Venturing Out Into The Wild
I decided to try online dating recently and shared a bit of my experience here. Per my personal values, I choose to avoid casual sexual encounters. For me, that’s a matter of mutual respect, to let the relationship develop and see if there’s genuine commitment. Each one of us is free to express your own personal preference in a dating profile. I think that’s the whole point of writing about yourself; you communicate a few essential facts to see if your lifestyle might mesh with someone else’s.
My theory is, the more IRL you reveal in a profile, the more likely you are to attract a kindred spirit.
The story generated some interesting responses. Without exception, women wrote in saying “yes, exactly.” Several men responded with vitriol, detailing their negative experiences in extramarital sexual encounters. (Which actually proved my point about the wisdom of waiting, but I don’t think they understood that.) They said, essentially, relationships are a total crapshoot and I’ll never find anyone to date me unless I’m willing to put out.
I disagree. To follow their guidelines, I’d have to stop being myself.
